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viaccess de arabesqueOne further thought when it comes to talking about my story to friends. I mentioned that most of the time it's not really about me, it's about trying to determine the other person's comfort level with the subject. I also talked about how writing here is completely different, because anyone who's reading it, wants to read about it.
There's one further nuance that I don't quite understand, and which doesn't fit with my current thoughts. I know there are some folks who I am friends with, and see on a regular basis, who have actually visited the site, some many times, and yet have never mentioned it to me. This would lead me to believe that there are folks who want to know about it, but who do not want to have to talk to me about it. At least that's my best guess. If I'm wrong, I wish one of them would let me know. :)
Tags: Survivors, Friendship
Posted by mike at August 23, 2007 9:06 PM
digg this| Add to Del.ico.us | FaceBook | Stumble Upon| Google BookmarkM: From my own experiences, I don't think what you are talking about is uncommon at all. It's especially tricky in my case when dealing with family when the abuser is my (step) father (who is the father of my two half-siblings). My brother and sister seem to want to pretend there is nothing wrong in favor of having some type of "normal" family unit. I did find a book that brought a lot of the things you seem to be exploring to light. While it deals specifically with the family dynamic, you might take a peek at "Ultimate betrayal: the enabling mother, incest and sexual abuse" by Audrey Ricker (http://worldcat.org/oclc/72444727). A lot of the observations made by the author can be applied to the experiences of survivors relating to friends as well as family.
Peace,
silvernightchild
Posted by: silvernightchild at August 23, 2007 11:40 PM