Link – What to Do If You Suspect a Coworker Is Struggling With Depression

“The recent sad news that a young Apple employee was found dead of a self-inflicted gunshot wound at the company’s headquarters raises an important, if troubling, question: Would you know what to do if you suspected a coworker might be dangerously depressed?”

I don’t work in an office any more, so the reality that many of us spend more time with our coworkers in the office than with anyone else in our lives isn’t true for me, but I think all of us should be more aware of the warning signs, and more aware of the people around us every day.

Yes, even at work.

What to Do If You Suspect a Coworker Is Struggling With Depression | MONEY

Link – A Sandusky Victim from 1971 Claims Joe Paterno Told Him to Drop Accusation

Yesterday, news came out that a court pleading in an insurance coverage case for Penn State contained an allegation that Joe Paterno knew of abuse allegations involving Jerry Sandusky as early as 1976.

Now, Sarah Ganim with CNN is reporting that another victim goes even further back, and also claims that he spoke to Joe Paterno shortly after an attack in 1971. The unidentified victim, who was 15 years old at the time and is now 62, was in and out of foster homes, and claims to have been given beer and pot by Sandusky, after Sandusky picked him up while hitchhiking. Then, Sandusky raped him in the Penn State bathrooms.

Simply put, I don’t know what happened and who was told what at Penn State. I’m not here to speculate about it either, but if you’re shocked at even the possibility that a whole lot of people either heard from a victim, or saw warning signs and ignored them, you haven’t been paying attention. Most people do not want to think someone they know is a child molester, so they rationalize away what is right in front of them.

Don’t do that.

I repeat, don’t do that. Do not convince yourself that you would know a child molester when you saw them, chances are you already have seen one, or more.

A Sandusky Victim from 1971 Claims Joe Paterno Told Him to Drop Accusation

Link – #FacesOfPTSD

“What is the #FacesOfPTSD campaign?

#FacesOfPTSD is a social media campaign set to kick-off this Friday, May 6, 2016.

Survivors who identify as having PTSD will flood social media with photos of themselves, along with the tagline, “Not all wars take place on the battlefield,” and the hashtag #FacesOfPTSD. Our goal is to alter the current landscape of social media and search engines (Google, Bing) to include all trauma survivors, particularly women who are rarely represented, in order to reflect more accurately the #FacesOfPTSD.”

If you are dealing with PTSD and want to contribute, obviously do so. If you want to know more about who is dealing with PTSD, follow the hash tag starting today!

#FacesOfPTSD

Link – Dennis Hastert’s alleged victims kept silent about being molested as boys. Here’s why.

It’s the silence that traps them, encasing them in shame, self-loathing and sometimes fear.
The millions of American men who were molested when they were children — a Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study estimates that it could be as high as 1 in every 6 men — hide what happened to them for years. They tell no one. But every so often, something happens to crack the silence.

This is wrong, wrong, wrong, WRONG! Too many male survivors are not getting the help and healing that is necessary because we continue to look at boys who were sexually abused as somehow weak and not as worthy of our sympathy.

It needs to stop, and the more male survivors can tell our stories, the better.

Dennis Hastert’s alleged victims kept silent about being molested as boys. Here’s why.

Linked – Ways to Take Care of Your Emotional and Mental Health

Hey you, with the mental health concerns – whatever you’re going through, wherever you’re at, this is a friendly reminder that there’s nothing wrong with you. While approximately 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. experiences mental illness in a given year, everyone has mental health that deserves to be taken care of.

So for anyone going through a rough time right now, we asked the JED Foundation’s community to tell us one thing they’d tell a friend to encourage them to take care of their emotional health.

Listen, friends. Here’s what your community wants you to know:

These are pretty good, I think some of them may even be things I’ve written or said to people over the years too!

Ways to Take Care of Your Emotional and Mental Health

Linked – This is the Reason We’ve Lived in Shame Long Enough

“All I know is that every survivor has a right to tell their story because we did nothing wrong.”

However you decide to tell your story, whether it be publicly on the internet or in a memoir, or privately to a few friends, you should never, ever be ashamed to tell it. As Rachel says, you did nothing wrong, why should you be the one dealing with shame?

You shouldn’t, you should be celebrated as the one who survived and overcame, not shamed into silence.

This is the Reason We’ve Lived in Shame Long Enough

Linked – How to Spot and Support your Spouse through Depression

“John* had seemed less like himself lately, and his wife Celeste* had started to notice. He laughed less, and when he was at home all he wanted to do was sleep. They had only been married for a few years, so it was very noticeable when John’s libido suddenly went down the drain.

Celeste wondered, what happened to her once happy-go-lucky husband? The guy who used to be the life of the party now just went to work, school, and hardly did anything else. She grew concerned. When she would ask him what was wrong, he would just shrug his shoulders. After a while, she took her concerns to a family member, who was a retired therapist. The therapist recommended that Celeste talk to John and help him get in to see someone.”

There is so much important information in this article, you should go read it even if you’re loved ones don’t currently exhibit any signs of depression. It’s so important that we look out for each other and know the signs. Let’s face it, statistics indicate that at some point, you are going to know someone dealing with depression, if you don’t yourself. How much better off would we all be if we knew the signs, and what to do.

Believe me, even though it’s been years since I’ve had to deal with my won depression, my wife knows what to look for, and what to do.

And I feel a lot better knowing that she does.

How to Spot and Support your Spouse through Depression

Video- Finding Courage to Talk About Child Sexual Abuse

When the subject of child sexual abuse comes up, we get uncomfortable. In this inspirational talk by Jill Tolles, we are challenged to find the courage to have this conversation and be a hero for the 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys who are effected by this silent epidemic.

Jill Tolles has taught Communication Studies for the past 10 years at the University of Nevada, Reno and is a member of the teaching faculty at the National Judicial College.

Follow Up on African American Male Survivors – One Trying to Defeat Stigma

Earlier I linked to a story about the stigma faced by make survivors in the black community in the US. Interestingly, I also received an email about the same time from a hip-hop artist currently promoting  an album and shirt film related to being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. You can read more about it on his site.

Below is the Youtube trailer for the short film, and the first single, called “Trigger Warning”.

“Trigger Warning” is the first song and official trailer from the ‘HAWDWERK is Jamil Potts’ short film based on the debut album from HAWDWERK of the same title. The short film is set to be released summer 2016.

Link – How Black Boys Suffer Sexual Abuse in Silence

Our media generally frames victims of sexual abuse as white and female. And the national discourse on the subject of molestation and rape is largely within a heteronormative paradigm. The concept of male-on-male child sexual abuse is seen as something that rarely happens; when it does, the perpetrator is often dismissed as a sexually deviant recluse.

The idea of mainstream, straight-identified men—prominent, successful ones, even—molesting young boys is still deemed an anomaly. That misconception may prove all the more confounding for young black boys in a society in which role models are hard to come by.

This is all true. As a white male, I see it. I can’t imagine how much more that goes for African-American men. Our culture refuses to see men as victims because they’re somehow afraid that will diminish the narrative of women as the victim, always. When a man is a victim, we just can’t fit that in, so we ignore it.

And this gets doubled if the abuser is a woman.

But, sexual abuse is sexual abuse. Gender and race don’t matter.

How Black Boys Suffer Sexual Abuse in Silence