Sadly, this is true.for all victims, but I feel like it is especially true for male victims of sexual abuse. We’re supposed to tough it out and not show any weakness, especially hockey players of all people! But healing really comes from being able to talk about it, whether that be publicly or privately.
If you’ve been around here for long, you likely know that sometimes, I just like to change things up and see how it works out. As a techie kind of guy, part of hosting my own websites has been to dabble, so occasionally, I’ll dabble in a new direction.
While over in Australia last week, I decided that I wanted to change the way I use Diigo to bookmark items. I wanted to continue using it as a tool to point to interesting things, but I found that the way I was doing it, left something to be desired. The old work flow was:
- Bookmark in Diigo
- Use IFTTT to auto share new bookmarks to Twitter and Facebook.
- Have a Weekly blog post listing out everything I bookmarked during the week
As I said, that wasn’t a bad way to go. I think it has served me well, but it was lacking in one key area. If there was something breaking, and I wanted to quickly comment on it, I really needed to create a post for it instead of using the Diigo workflow, and because of the security setup of my WordPress installs, writing a blog post while traveling is sometimes problematic. Otherwise my comment would have to wait until Sunday, when the weekly roundup posted, and potentially get lost in the list of links being shared.
I’ve decided to go a different route, which you may have already seen.
- Bookmark in Diigo with notes
- Use IFTTT to create a new blog post, with the link and my notes/comments
- Push the blog post to Twitter and Facebook from WordPress
- Share other things that I don’t have comments to add directly to Facebook and Twitter and not here on the blog
So this means that you should start to see more posts here, and if you follow me on Twitter or the Facebook page, or other social networks, you’ll start to see things just shared directly there without seeing them here. Hopefully, it’s interesting stuff, but if not, hey at least you know I’ll probably change it again someday. 😉
This is tough. Most of us don’t want to do anything but punish pedophiles, but at the same time, if we are truly trying to protect kids, not having any information at all about pedophilia is problematic. How do we know what we’re doing now works without the ability to study people with a professed attraction to children?
In the end, I’m for anything that works to protect kids as much as possible, and against anything that doesn’t actually protect them. That’s why I find much of the knee-jerk reaction that passes for “laws” in the US to be a problem. It doesn’t actually make any kids safer, but it makes us all feel better for “doing something”, no matter how ill-thought that something is. I would like more research, I would like a way to help anyone attracted to children to avoid hurting children, and I would like a way to prevent anyone bent on sexually abusing children from having access to children at all. Right now, we aren’t accomplishing that.
How many of us have a spouse dealing with depression and no idea how to help? This isn’t a bad place to start.
Lots of good information here, especially because, in my experience, I do not think many parents would react this way. It’s too difficult to react emotionally, one way or another, and not do what’s best for all of your children.
Were you sexually abused by a sibling? What kinds of complications did that create within the family dynamic?
Sharing as a reminder to many of us who are moved to donate money to various causes based on social media posts. Not all charities are actually legitimate. While sometimes even legitimate seeming charities commit fraud, you can lower your risk of being taken with a little research into what the charity is, what they claim to do, and whether there’s any proof of what they say.
You can read the details, with plenty of links to other reports here:
The Methodist Church of the UK has conducted a study to determine the extent to child abuse that occurred within the church and offered an apology for what they have found.
The UK’s Methodist Church has made a public apology after an investigation uncovered reports of nearly 2,000 alleged abusers – including 914 allegations involving sexual abuse.
An independent inquiry looked at the Church’s response to complaints and allegations dating back to 1950.
General secretary, the Revd Dr Martyn Atkins, said abuse was “a deep source of grief and shame to the Church”.
A law firm representing some of the victims welcomed the apology.
You can read the whole story in the BBC story.