Comments on: Survivors Network Offline http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/ About a male survivor of childhood abuse, and the issues he faces in adult life. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:57:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bob http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-6032 Bob Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:57:52 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-6032 Feel free to email me @ backstopbob89@yahoo.com bob Feel free to email me @ backstopbob89@yahoo.com

bob

]]> By: Teth http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-6030 Teth Tue, 07 Feb 2012 15:41:11 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-6030 Bob, This means a great deal to me. Thank you so very much. Please contact me directly through my email, and I can send you what I have so far. Good for you in all you are acomplishing! How are we to connect outside of this forum? Teth Bob,

This means a great deal to me. Thank you so very much.
Please contact me directly through my email, and I can send you what I have so far.

Good for you in all you are acomplishing!

How are we to connect outside of this forum?

Teth

]]> By: Bob http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-6029 Bob Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:18:20 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-6029 Teth, I am a well-respected Web writer, head up a pretty solid writing group, and am a budding novelist, as well a sexual abuse survivor. I'd be happy to read your work and offer comments. bob Teth, I am a well-respected Web writer, head up a pretty solid writing group, and am a budding novelist, as well a sexual abuse survivor. I’d be happy to read your work and offer comments.

bob

]]> By: Teth http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-5812 Teth Thu, 12 Jan 2012 15:08:36 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-5812 Luis... Thanks so very much! It is really a rough draft. I am not skilled at all in anything but creative, or from the heart writing... Or, so I have been told anyway. If you read it, and think it has potential to be effective in opening and eyes and giving understanding... and motivating people, please consider asking friends you may know if they want to help out with a proof for edit. It's writing for the cause more than self. My idea is to use proceeds, if the book is ever published and sold, to help with "Life Restoration Homes" and investing in truly effective programs, to get evidence of what I believe is true. This will make more sense after you read it. But, be warned (smile) it's really, really rough. Read from the heart, and please... make readers notes all over it, and then give me honest reader feedback when you are finished. I have Word docs at this point. I will send them to Mike, as attached docs. Thanks again! Luis…

Thanks so very much!

It is really a rough draft.
I am not skilled at all in anything but creative, or from the heart writing… Or, so I have been told anyway.

If you read it, and think it has potential to be effective in opening and eyes and giving understanding… and motivating people, please consider asking friends you may know if they want to help out with a proof for edit.

It’s writing for the cause more than self.

My idea is to use proceeds, if the book is ever published and sold, to help with “Life Restoration Homes” and investing in truly effective programs, to get evidence of what I believe is true.

This will make more sense after you read it.

But, be warned (smile) it’s really, really rough.

Read from the heart, and please… make readers notes all over it, and then give me honest reader feedback when you are finished.

I have Word docs at this point. I will send them to Mike, as attached docs.

Thanks again!

]]> By: Luis http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-5811 Luis Thu, 12 Jan 2012 13:03:44 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-5811 I would volunter for reading your book. Since its Mike's site, it is at his discretion to give contact information. If any, good luck with your book. Happy new year to you all. I would volunter for reading your book. Since its Mike’s site, it is at his discretion to give contact information. If any, good luck with your book.
Happy new year to you all.

]]> By: Teth http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-5794 Teth Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:25:08 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-5794 Mike, I send an email through another option from the website. I just wanted to let you know this, because somewhere else it was posted that the site was not fully operational, or something along that line, and I really wanted to connect with you about some help I need. Please be looking for the other email from me, and if you do not see it, contact me, please. RE: Seekings survivors who are determined and that persistently seeking and embracing healing... NOT brokenness, NOT victim-hood, to read a book I am giving consideration to, for possible publishing. Nothing negative is implied in this. I have embraced brokenness for most of my life, and it's only been the past six years that I have diligently sought repair and restoration work myself. I was a "victim" all those years and I am still, working out of the victim mentality, daily. It's a life long journey to seek and dig and climb out from the destructive rubble and debris of abuse, but, once you learn to embrace healing more than anything else, you are more and more encouraged, and more and more empowered, and this gives you renewed strngth and purpose to keep on climbing up, from under, and with hope to reach the blue skies! I know there are those who have almost climbed out completely, and some, are where I am, learning the value of, appreciating the results of the acceptance and efforts to unlearn, and relearn everything. I need this level of survivor readers to test my book, and give honest feedback. It's written from realities, and mostly, from a heart that cares, deeply... so deeply for each and everyone who has suffered abuse. This may enrage a few people, but it is my hope that it also will touch the hearts, minds and even the soul of "repeat" abusers, and lead them to acknowledging that they can learn, change and stop. So, if there is anyone who this would offend, and I understand, believe me... they would not be a candidate. Not long ago, myself, I could not fathom ever wanting to reach out to abusers. But now, in my healing process, as I am finding who I originally was before the personal tragedy of my life, I am fining a new level of hope for the circle of life and the need for all broken, hurting, damaged and lost souls, to get the healing help they all so desperately need, and all the various levels. So... Mike, if you would be willing, to give thought to this, and inquire as needed, to receive more details from me, then possibly be willing approach people you know, that may be perfect for this request, that would be willing to be volunteer "readers," I would appreciate it. I truly appreciate your POSITIVE and HOPEFUL ways! Know, without a doubt, that you are effectively making a significant and profound difference in the lives of others. Mike,
I send an email through another option from the website. I just wanted to let you know this, because somewhere else it was posted that the site was not fully operational, or something along that line, and I really wanted to connect with you about some help I need.
Please be looking for the other email from me, and if you do not see it, contact me, please.
RE: Seekings survivors who are determined and that persistently seeking and embracing healing… NOT brokenness, NOT victim-hood, to read a book I am giving consideration to, for possible publishing.
Nothing negative is implied in this. I have embraced brokenness for most of my life, and it’s only been the past six years that I have diligently sought repair and restoration work myself. I was a “victim” all those years and I am still, working out of the victim mentality, daily.
It’s a life long journey to seek and dig and climb out from the destructive rubble and debris of abuse, but, once you learn to embrace healing more than anything else, you are more and more encouraged, and more and more empowered, and this gives you renewed strngth and purpose to keep on climbing up, from under, and with hope to reach the blue skies!
I know there are those who have almost climbed out completely, and some, are where I am, learning the value of, appreciating the results of the acceptance and efforts to unlearn, and relearn everything.
I need this level of survivor readers to test my book, and give honest feedback.
It’s written from realities, and mostly, from a heart that cares, deeply… so deeply for each and everyone who has suffered abuse. This may enrage a few people, but it is my hope that it also will touch the hearts, minds and even the soul of “repeat” abusers, and lead them to acknowledging that they can learn, change and stop. So, if there is anyone who this would offend, and I understand, believe me… they would not be a candidate. Not long ago, myself, I could not fathom ever wanting to reach out to abusers. But now, in my healing process, as I am finding who I originally was before the personal tragedy of my life, I am fining a new level of hope for the circle of life and the need for all broken, hurting, damaged and lost souls, to get the healing help they all so desperately need, and all the various levels.
So… Mike, if you would be willing, to give thought to this, and inquire as needed, to receive more details from me, then possibly be willing approach people you know, that may be perfect for this request, that would be willing to be volunteer “readers,” I would appreciate it.
I truly appreciate your POSITIVE and HOPEFUL ways!
Know, without a doubt, that you are effectively making a significant and profound difference in the lives of others.

]]> By: MikeM http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-5718 MikeM Thu, 29 Dec 2011 04:39:11 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-5718 So long as we are still here, and can go on to the next day, there is always hope! So long as we are still here, and can go on to the next day, there is always hope!

]]> By: Luis http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-5711 Luis Thu, 29 Dec 2011 02:39:45 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-5711 Mike, these are very kind words. There is no little or big in the life of a person that was subject to abuse. I hope it does stop in the world. I have been struggling all my life, and I am know as I write this words. Does it have any explanation? Im a supporter of this site now. And all those sad stories I've read here now, I do feel very very sad. I would like to give hope to all, it gives me hope too. Love. Mike, these are very kind words. There is no little or big in the life of a person that was subject to abuse. I hope it does stop in the world. I have been struggling all my life, and I am know as I write this words. Does it have any explanation? Im a supporter of this site now. And all those sad stories I’ve read here now, I do feel very very sad. I would like to give hope to all, it gives me hope too. Love.

]]> By: MikeM http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-5691 MikeM Tue, 27 Dec 2011 17:15:14 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-5691 Luis, if you're still here after everything you've been through, then you are a survivor. Plain and simple, you've survived childhood and have hope for healing and a bright future. That's surviving. My hope for you is that you will find your way to healing, and the happiness that alludes you currently. It's possible! Luis, if you’re still here after everything you’ve been through, then you are a survivor. Plain and simple, you’ve survived childhood and have hope for healing and a bright future. That’s surviving. My hope for you is that you will find your way to healing, and the happiness that alludes you currently. It’s possible!

]]> By: Luis http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/2011/09/26/survivors-network-offline/comment-page-1/#comment-5671 Luis Mon, 26 Dec 2011 03:02:02 +0000 http://www.childabusesurvivor.net/wordpress/?p=1034#comment-5671 I cannot say that im a survivor, im still alive. That's it, I'm 44 years old , abused by an older neighbour sometime at age 9. I just can recall that I was cheated by a person that I admired. 34 years of keeping it a secret from my family, although I sometimes suspect they know. Its a bad thing when this happens to you, its a bad thing when that evil comes into your house. I am not married, have a daughter, 21 years old that no longer carries my name. Im not complainig on that, just to tell you that abuse is very bad. I cannot believe the evil of abusers. Millions of thoughts to try to explain it. I do have a steady job, a good position and Im grateful. But I have not been able to construct appropriately my life. Years have passed. I even went to a psicologist during my school years and told her (among other therapitsts). She was not very professional, she told me that I could never tell that story to a girl because she would always doubt my manhood. I was 16 years when I consulted her. Even though I fear my own feelings, and have tried to deny and destroy myself through hate for as long as I remember, I do feel much more of a man than many cowards out there, who deceive childs, who tell them lies and make them do things, destroy their possibilities for the future. My country wants to give life sentence for abusers. Well, they have given us abused live sentences too. That lier, that evil person becomes a part of your life, that "friend". And I m sorry to see out there all those people that turn homosexuals because of abuse, carry that "friend" in their head, and confuse it with their selfs. And make them meet other "friends". Now for me, one of my thoughts is that I have to take that "friend" as a secret to may grave. A lot of discipline it requieres. I want to extend my sympathy for you all, to give hope to any of you. That "friend" has to be beaten, and try to get free form him. No more shame. Shame goes to the abuser, who is no more than a coward, a deceiver that can only achieve its goals by using childs. I have more on my life, but its a long story. Only I can say that human knwoledge on understanding how to help an abused is still very little. Cannot keep on analyzing factas and behaviour. It is more the spiritual harm, and spirit is allwayse healed by love. I cannot say that im a survivor, im still alive. That’s it, I’m 44 years old , abused by an older neighbour sometime at age 9. I just can recall that I was cheated by a person that I admired. 34 years of keeping it a secret from my family, although I sometimes suspect they know. Its a bad thing when this happens to you, its a bad thing when that evil comes into your house. I am not married, have a daughter, 21 years old that no longer carries my name. Im not complainig on that, just to tell you that abuse is very bad. I cannot believe the evil of abusers. Millions of thoughts to try to explain it. I do have a steady job, a good position and Im grateful. But I have not been able to construct appropriately my life. Years have passed. I even went to a psicologist during my school years and told her (among other therapitsts). She was not very professional, she told me that I could never tell that story to a girl because she would always doubt my manhood. I was 16 years when I consulted her. Even though I fear my own feelings, and have tried to deny and destroy myself through hate for as long as I remember, I do feel much more of a man than many cowards out there, who deceive childs, who tell them lies and make them do things, destroy their possibilities for the future. My country wants to give life sentence for abusers. Well, they have given us abused live sentences too. That lier, that evil person becomes a part of your life, that “friend”. And I m sorry to see out there all those people that turn homosexuals because of abuse, carry that “friend” in their head, and confuse it with their selfs. And make them meet other “friends”. Now for me, one of my thoughts is that I have to take that “friend” as a secret to may grave. A lot of discipline it requieres. I want to extend my sympathy for you all, to give hope to any of you. That “friend” has to be beaten, and try to get free form him. No more shame. Shame goes to the abuser, who is no more than a coward, a deceiver that can only achieve its goals by using childs. I have more on my life, but its a long story. Only I can say that human knwoledge on understanding how to help an abused is still very little. Cannot keep on analyzing factas and behaviour. It is more the spiritual harm, and spirit is allwayse healed by love.

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