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Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse for August – Change

I’m going to be hosting the monthly Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse here this month. Since this is a month where I am facing some big changes in life, including moving across the country at the end of it, I thought why not look into the topic of change. As survivors, change can be terrifying. We are comforted by control and predictability, so change isn’t something that we naturally look forward to. But it doesn’t have to stay that way! I’d love to hear from some folks this month who have managed to embrace change, make changes in their own lives, and how they’ve overcome this fear of change!

As always, we will have the regular topics as well and I look forward to seeing all of you submitting a post, old or new, for this month’s carnival!

-Advocacy and Awareness
-Healing and Therapy
-In the News
-Survivor Stories
-Art Therapy

To submit an article, you can fill out this submission form. To find out more about this “Blog carnival” thing, you can check out Tracie’s page for more details. The deadline for submissions is Weds. Aug 27.  The carnival will go live on Friday Aug 29, the day before I move actually. ;-)

Now let’s put together a chorus of survivor’s voices for this month’s carnival and show the world that we’re out here!

Featured Posts From the Past

What to Say and What Not to Say

Ginger Kadlec, over on her blog, has a couple of really good posts about how to handle being told that someone is either currently being abused, or was sexually abused as a child. I recommend that you take a look and be prepared before someone in your life shares their story with you.

20 Wrong Things to Say to Sexual Abuse Survivors

5 Good Things to Say to Sexual Abuse Survivors

Best Depression Blogs

I can’t necessarily vouch for every blog on the list, but the Depression Treatment Center has put together a list of the Best Depression Blogs over on their site. In their words:

Finding the best blogs on depression and depressive disorders can take a lot of time and can be depressing all on its own. We have compiled a list of the best blogs on depression that you can keep an eye on without having to do your own searching. Each one has been selected based on quality of information as well as how frequently it is updated. We know that you will find these quality blogs to be just as informative as we do and well worth reading.

Whether you are searching for help yourself, to help a loved one or just for more knowledge, we’ve got you covered. We have handpicked the top ten best blogs about depression on the Internet. These authors are depression survivors, physicians and therapists who want to help. The newest studies, firsthand accounts and helpful tips are just some of the great morsels you’ll find in our top ten.

I am only familiar with a couple of the blogs on the list, but if you’re on the lookout for more information about depression, and want to follow some blogs that you can continue to learn from, you could do a lot worse than starting with these 10.

What are your favorite blogs on depression?

Me Elsewhere

If you’re interested in a little interview I did recently with the founder of the No Longer Silent Movement, you can check it out over on their blog.

As I mentioned before, I think it’s a great thing that Nicolette is trying to reach survivors at a young age. So many of us went through such pain and misery in our adult years because we didn’t get help, or tried to keep our issues secret. How I wish survivors would not do that to themselves! Hopefully, giving them a role model (Not that I consider myself a role model, but I am someone who survived, and has overcome an abusive past) will let them know that they are not alone, and are on a path that others have taken before them.

Another New Resource

Lori’s Song is a brand new site, that just went live today. It is also a charity designed to provide a supportive area for abuse survivors.

From their mission statement:

We have many goals for Lori’s Song. Most prominent in our vision is a positive focus on healing and thriving. Our comprehensive website provides a plethora of resources, insights, and information. Understanding the effects of abuse and their many manifestations in our adult lives is vital to healing from the past and forging a healthy and fulfilling future. Our website offers information on all aspects of healing from child abuse and is a springboard to other helpful resources.

So check it out and see what they have to offer. I know I will be back to see how things develop. It’s always great to see some long time contributors to the online survivor community working together to provide new resources!

Help for Young Adult Survivors

Recently, I was contacted by Nicolette Winn, the founder of the No Longer Silent Movement (

The first paragraph of the NoLo Movement’s mission struck a chord with me.

Giving a voice to those who previously had thought themselves voiceless, the No Longer Silenced Movement seeks to empower teenage and young adult survivors of child abuse. By working to build a national network, we hope to show them that a better way is there for them than continuing the cycle of abuse and the hardships that are fostered through it.

When I was a teenager, and through the early years of my adulthood, I was still very much under the impression that no one else was dealing with what I was dealing with. I spent, wasted really, many years without much support, and definitely without role models to show me that recovery was possible. As much as I try to get the word out that survivors are not alone, I also know I’m just a guy with a website. There is so much more that survivors need that I can’t provide. That’s why it’s great that there are groups being formed, trying to reach out to any specific group of survivors, especially at a young age, where they have the chance to not waste as many years as I did in unhealthy behavior before they start healing.

If you are, or know, a young survivor, you may want to consider getting them in touch with NoLo and help to build that network of young adult survivors!