{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"Survivors News and Reviews","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews","title":"Sharing - Other People Don't Think You're a Mess","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"X1nWeL0tdr\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2021\/11\/05\/sharing-other-people-dont-think-youre-a-mess\/\">Sharing &#8211; Other People Don&#8217;t Think You&#8217;re a Mess<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2021\/11\/05\/sharing-other-people-dont-think-youre-a-mess\/embed\/#?secret=X1nWeL0tdr\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;Sharing &#8211; Other People Don&#8217;t Think You&#8217;re a Mess&#8221; &#8212; Survivors News and Reviews\" data-secret=\"X1nWeL0tdr\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/\/# sourceURL=https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-includes\/js\/wp-embed.min.js\n<\/script>\n","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/pexels-pixabay-247314-scaled-e1619401313660.jpg?fit=640%2C427&ssl=1","thumbnail_width":640,"thumbnail_height":427,"description":"The key is to have some compassion for yourself, similar to the compassion you might have for someone else in a vulnerable situation. When you can do that, suddenly what the other person does isn't as important, you've given yourself grace, and acceptance.  As childhood abuse survivors, of course, this is tricky. Self-compassion is not generally one of our strengths. How could it be? All our lives we've been told that bad things happen either to bad people, or for a reason, and we've had something horrible happen to us, so we must be broken in some way to have had that experience. Didn't we all think that way at one point or another? How could we not?"}