{"id":3791,"date":"2015-10-09T10:10:20","date_gmt":"2015-10-09T17:10:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/?p=3791"},"modified":"2015-10-08T08:12:28","modified_gmt":"2015-10-08T15:12:28","slug":"reading-the-most-damaging-aspect-of-abuse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2015\/10\/09\/reading-the-most-damaging-aspect-of-abuse\/","title":{"rendered":"Reading &#8211; The Most Damaging Aspect of Abuse"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='__iawmlf-post-loop-links' style='display:none;' data-iawmlf-post-links='[{&quot;id&quot;:2599,&quot;href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/ift.tt\\\/1Mfgmy5&quot;,&quot;archived_href&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;redirect_href&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/ift.tt\\\/1Mfgmy5&quot;,&quot;checks&quot;:[],&quot;broken&quot;:false,&quot;last_checked&quot;:null,&quot;process&quot;:&quot;done&quot;}]'><\/div>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;It isn\u2019t what you think. \u00a0The most damaging aspect of child sexual abuse isn\u2019t the abuse. \u00a0It\u2019s what the abuse does to you emotionally and psychologically. \u00a0It\u2019s the hidden burden you had to carry for too long. \u00a0It\u2019s that shameful secret.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s how it works. \u00a0My stepfather was a great guy. \u00a0He was nice to me and to other people. \u00a0He was charismatic and outgoing. \u00a0Everyone enjoyed hanging out with him. \u00a0I did, too. \u00a0But I didn\u2019t like what he was doing to me. \u00a0I didn\u2019t understand why it kept happening or what it meant. \u00a0None of it made sense. \u00a0It left me feeling alone, disconnected, and confused.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>As an adult survivor, it&#8217;s the things we learned as a child that keep us from being healthy. 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