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“We think silence can\u2019t indicate that something hurts. Without an expression of pain, we assume there\u2019s no injury. The pain scale at the doctor\u2019s office displays a smiling face over a zero to represent no pain, while the worst pain, a \u201c10,\u201d is represented by a face crumpled in agony and\u00a0tears falling. Too often, our society implicitly uses this scale to judge abused children\u2019s emotional pain. If they\u2019re not crying, if their faces are expressionless, we assume they must not be hurting. We refuse to hear silence as anything but a vacuum of feeling, a void in experience.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

In general, we still have a long way to go to understand the effects of childhood sexual abuse truly. Usually, it varies between this, where someone who remains quiet about the abuse “couldn’t have been hurt too badly”, to an advocate describing it as “a life sentence”, where abuse victims are told that their life is destroyed with no hope of ever being normal.<\/p>\n

Neither of those is true. It’s much more complicated than that. However, too many people, to make society see the pain that isn’t being expressed, send the wrong message; that it can’t be overcome. The pain, and damage, are real. And it’s not the end of the world.<\/p>\n

Believe it or not, both things can be true.<\/p>\n

How society silences sexually abused children – The Washington Post<\/a>

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