{"id":3963,"date":"2015-12-13T09:56:47","date_gmt":"2015-12-13T17:56:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/?p=3963"},"modified":"2015-12-12T11:57:36","modified_gmt":"2015-12-12T19:57:36","slug":"link-dealing-depression-get-doesnt-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2015\/12\/13\/link-dealing-depression-get-doesnt-work\/","title":{"rendered":"Link &#8211; Dealing with Depression: Why \u2018Get Over It\u2019 Doesn\u2019t Work"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class='__iawmlf-post-loop-links' style='display:none;' data-iawmlf-post-links='[{&quot;id&quot;:2551,&quot;href&quot;:&quot;http:\\\/\\\/ift.tt\\\/1RKEmeF&quot;,&quot;archived_href&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;redirect_href&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/ift.tt\\\/1RKEmeF&quot;,&quot;checks&quot;:[],&quot;broken&quot;:false,&quot;last_checked&quot;:null,&quot;process&quot;:&quot;done&quot;}]'><\/div>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;So what happens when we say \u201cget over it\u201d to someone with depression that is driven by unconscious repression? Here, the \u201cget over it\u201d confronts the depressed mind with an impossible task: (1) gain conscious control of an unconscious process that is currently operating out of your awareness, or (2) do a thing you simply can\u2019t do (yet).<\/p>\n<p>When people, especially people we love, challenge us to do something that is impossible, it triggers anger, and in the depressed mind where instant repression is still active, that anger will deflect right back onto the self. Instead of lovingly reducing the person\u2019s symptom burden, then, the \u201cget over it\u201d would actually make symptoms worse by activating anger that will be sucked back in via repression.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So, you&#8217;re not helping someone when you tell them to &#8220;get over&#8221; being depressed. That helps when someone is simply making a poor choice, but when they are dealing with a mental health concern, you are simply making it worse when you tell them to &#8220;get over&#8221; something they have no control over.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t you think if every depressed person could simply choose to not be depressed the statistics on mental health would look a lot different? Yet they are what they are, for a reason.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/ift.tt\/1RKEmeF\">Dealing with Depression: Why \u2018Get Over It\u2019 Doesn\u2019t Work<\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"syndication-links\"><\/div><span class=\"kt-load-after-post\"><\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;So what happens when we say \u201cget over it\u201d to someone with depression that is driven by unconscious repression? 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