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During that period of my life, I wasn&#8217;t just, &#8220;taking a guy home from the party because I wanted to.&#8221; I was actively going on Tinder and looking for guys to meet at bars and then bring home with me, because I felt like I needed to.<\/p>\n<p>My logic was: If I can sleep with random people, that means I&#8217;m fine. That means my trauma doesn&#8217;t affect me.<\/p>\n<p>Oh, the irony.<\/p>\n<p>I didn&#8217;t realize that this was a completely normal reaction to sexual trauma until I talked about it in therapy, and my counselor assured me that it was a common response.&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>This is true of adults who were sexually abused as children as well. Yes, many survivors grow up completely uninterested in sex, but for others the opposite is true. There can be many reasons for it, but it&#8217;s most important to understand that you are not alone, and that all survivors react differently to trauma. 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