{"id":4918,"date":"2016-12-22T08:03:10","date_gmt":"2016-12-22T16:03:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/?p=4918"},"modified":"2016-12-19T20:04:03","modified_gmt":"2016-12-20T04:04:03","slug":"link-messenger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/","title":{"rendered":"Link – Messenger"},"content":{"rendered":"

When people say that to us- about not wanting to break up their families by speaking the truth, we say the same thing every time- \u201cOh honey, your family is already broken.\u201d
\nIf sexual abuse is happening within your family, if the cycle of abuse and trauma is playing out on a loop from hell in your family- well, your family is fundamentally broken to begin with. \u00a0It\u2019s like saying I don\u2019t want to inflict chemo on myself because it\u2019s toxic and my body is a temple\u2026 Honey, you have CANCER. \u00a0Pick your poison.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

It’s only natural to not want to upset people, or burden them with our problems, but to try and exist in a family unit where sexual abuse has taken place without being able to acknowledge your truth is going to be much, much worse. Instead of taking care of our own healing, we wind up tip-toeing around other people and maybe even continuing to deal with our abuser in ways that are not of our choosing.<\/p>\n

That’s not healthy.<\/p>\n

https:\/\/inotherswords.com\/2016\/05\/23\/messenger\/<\/p>\n

<\/div><\/span>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When people say that to us- about not wanting to break up their families by speaking the truth, we say the same thing every time- \u201cOh honey, your family is already broken.\u201d If sexual abuse is happening within your family, if the cycle of abuse and trauma is playing out on a loop from hell…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"mf2_syndication":[],"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"_kad_post_classname":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"webmentions_disabled_pings":false,"webmentions_disabled":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[35],"tags":[37,47,58],"class_list":["post-4918","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-links","tag-abuse","tag-healing","tag-trauma"],"yoast_head":"\nLink - Messenger<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Link - Messenger\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"When people say that to us- about not wanting to break up their families by speaking the truth, we say the same thing every time- \u201cOh honey, your family is already broken.\u201d If sexual abuse is happening within your family, if the cycle of abuse and trauma is playing out on a loop from hell...\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Survivors News and Reviews\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/mikemac29\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:author\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/mikemac29\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2016-12-22T16:03:10+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/10\/15189291772_1d4be96633_k.jpg?fit=2048%2C1371&ssl=1\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"2048\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"1371\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"MikeM\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@CA_Survivor\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@CA_Survivor\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"MikeM\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"1 minute\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\\\/\\\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"MikeM\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/dbc4a41a301b6455b3717df14ea3533e\"},\"headline\":\"Link – Messenger\",\"datePublished\":\"2016-12-22T16:03:10+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/\"},\"wordCount\":185,\"commentCount\":0,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/dbc4a41a301b6455b3717df14ea3533e\"},\"keywords\":[\"Abuse\",\"Healing\",\"Trauma\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Links\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"CommentAction\",\"name\":\"Comment\",\"target\":[\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/#respond\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/\",\"name\":\"Link - Messenger\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2016-12-22T16:03:10+00:00\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/2016\\\/12\\\/22\\\/link-messenger\\\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Link – Messenger\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/\",\"name\":\"Survivors News and Reviews\",\"description\":\"News and media reviews for the Child Abuse Survivor community, from fellow survivors\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/dbc4a41a301b6455b3717df14ea3533e\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":[\"Person\",\"Organization\"],\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/#\\\/schema\\\/person\\\/dbc4a41a301b6455b3717df14ea3533e\",\"name\":\"MikeM\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/i0.wp.com\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2020\\\/09\\\/DSC_0625-scaled-e1599775106108.jpg?fit=860%2C576&ssl=1\",\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/i0.wp.com\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2020\\\/09\\\/DSC_0625-scaled-e1599775106108.jpg?fit=860%2C576&ssl=1\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\\\/\\\/i0.wp.com\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2020\\\/09\\\/DSC_0625-scaled-e1599775106108.jpg?fit=860%2C576&ssl=1\",\"width\":860,\"height\":576,\"caption\":\"MikeM\"},\"logo\":{\"@id\":\"https:\\\/\\\/i0.wp.com\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/wp-content\\\/uploads\\\/2020\\\/09\\\/DSC_0625-scaled-e1599775106108.jpg?fit=860%2C576&ssl=1\"},\"sameAs\":[\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\",\"https:\\\/\\\/www.facebook.com\\\/mikemac29\",\"https:\\\/\\\/x.com\\\/CA_Survivor\"],\"url\":\"https:\\\/\\\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\\\/reviews\\\/author\\\/mikem\\\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Link - Messenger","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Link - Messenger","og_description":"When people say that to us- about not wanting to break up their families by speaking the truth, we say the same thing every time- \u201cOh honey, your family is already broken.\u201d If sexual abuse is happening within your family, if the cycle of abuse and trauma is playing out on a loop from hell...","og_url":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/","og_site_name":"Survivors News and Reviews","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/mikemac29","article_author":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/mikemac29","article_published_time":"2016-12-22T16:03:10+00:00","og_image":[{"width":2048,"height":1371,"url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/10\/15189291772_1d4be96633_k.jpg?fit=2048%2C1371&ssl=1","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"MikeM","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@CA_Survivor","twitter_site":"@CA_Survivor","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"MikeM","Est. reading time":"1 minute"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/"},"author":{"name":"MikeM","@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/#\/schema\/person\/dbc4a41a301b6455b3717df14ea3533e"},"headline":"Link – Messenger","datePublished":"2016-12-22T16:03:10+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/"},"wordCount":185,"commentCount":0,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/#\/schema\/person\/dbc4a41a301b6455b3717df14ea3533e"},"keywords":["Abuse","Healing","Trauma"],"articleSection":["Links"],"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/","url":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/","name":"Link - Messenger","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/#website"},"datePublished":"2016-12-22T16:03:10+00:00","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/2016\/12\/22\/link-messenger\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Link – Messenger"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/","name":"Survivors News and Reviews","description":"News and media reviews for the Child Abuse Survivor community, from fellow survivors","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/#\/schema\/person\/dbc4a41a301b6455b3717df14ea3533e"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":["Person","Organization"],"@id":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/#\/schema\/person\/dbc4a41a301b6455b3717df14ea3533e","name":"MikeM","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/DSC_0625-scaled-e1599775106108.jpg?fit=860%2C576&ssl=1","url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/DSC_0625-scaled-e1599775106108.jpg?fit=860%2C576&ssl=1","contentUrl":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/DSC_0625-scaled-e1599775106108.jpg?fit=860%2C576&ssl=1","width":860,"height":576,"caption":"MikeM"},"logo":{"@id":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/DSC_0625-scaled-e1599775106108.jpg?fit=860%2C576&ssl=1"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net","https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/mikemac29","https:\/\/x.com\/CA_Survivor"],"url":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/author\/mikem\/"}]}},"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pjdxv-1hk","jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4918","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4918"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4918\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4918"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4918"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.childabusesurvivor.net\/reviews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4918"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}