This is so very true, and such a struggle for those of us who grew up constantly being criticized, belittled, and abused.<\/p>\n
“In this case, the words that hurt, the words of abuse, are constant reminders of what others thought of us. Absent of any positive reinforcement, these words may have become hardwired within us.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
I\u00a0hear these words every time I fall a little short or make a mistake. And for me, it\u2019s never a little mistake. Whatever\u00a0I\u2019ve done \u2014 it\u2019s a catastrophic failure on\u00a0my part proving\u00a0I\u2019m unworthy of self-respect.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Eventually,\u00a0most of us find a therapist or a book that sets us straight \u2014 we are not failures, we are not ugly and we are worthy of being loved and respected.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Please be careful of the words you use toward kids, and adults for that matter. Most of us are already hard enough on ourselves, we don’t need any help from you.<\/p>\n