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Hi, I’m Mike McBride. I am a survivor of childhood abuse. I am also a survivor of major depression, dissociative fugue and a suicide attempt. This is my place. This is where I share my thoughts, my knowledge, and educational resources about all of these topics, in multiple ways. I don’t do this for fame, and I’m definitely not making any money from it. I do it so that the next survivor, of any of these things, has at least one place on the world wide web to know that they are not alone.

You are, in fact, not alone. Far from it, and I hope that by looking around here, and maybe even subscribing, you will learn this simple fact, and draw strength from it. If you know anyone who might benefit from that, please share this with them.

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Latest Posts from the Blogs

  • What I read in this matches what I see in real life. Some people spend a lot of time on social media doing things that are bad for their mental health. (Comparing their lives to the ultra-filtered images they see on social media, filling their feed with information that is bad for their mental health, etc.) while others use social media to connect with an online support network. Given that, the calls for banning social media use for kids seem odd, […]
  • The more I see research like this, the more I become convinced that one of the most significant losses many sexual abuse survivors suffer has to do with how complicated touch becomes for us as adults. The post Sharing – Touch can reduce pain, depression and anxiety, say researchers appeared first on Survivors News and Reviews.
  • The impact of what you weren't given as a child can be just as real as the impacts of physical and sexual abuse. The struggle to navigate relationships and work, emotional immaturity, the lack of trust, the inability to be vulnerable, etc. Those are all things we should be learning throughout life, and they are all something we can learn throughout life. It sure would have been nice to have been able to start that process in childhood, though. The post […]
  • We talk a lot in the advocate community about not being alone with mental health issues. I try to encourage anyone to see others who are dealing with the same issues around mental health and childhood abuse and recognize that they are not in this alone. There are many of us out here dealing with the same thing.  Many in the US and other countries are alone in accessing care. That should shame us all.  The post 40% of Americans are […]
  • ?? The post Shared Links (weekly) March 31, 2024 appeared first on Survivors News and Reviews.
  • We are survivors because we are still here. We are victims because someone harmed us while committing a crime. There's no reason to complicate those terms and there's no reason any of us who experienced abuse can't be both.  The post Victim, Survivor, or Both? appeared first on Child Abuse Survivor.
  • This is why I look for the definition when I read anything about being fully healed. What does being healed mean to you? Is your definition possible? A definition that includes the abuse having zero impact on who you are today? Because that's not realistic. But it also doesn't mean you can't go on to have a healed life while acknowledging that it is still part of who you are. It was a traumatic event; they became part of us. They […]
  • Most of the time, we don't know what people are dealing with, but even when we do know, they may react to trauma and stress in ways that don't make sense to us. That's life. That's being human; being mature means accepting and being comfortable with it – not trying to fill in all the blanks yourself. The post Quick Thought #22 – Kate Middleton and Filling in the Blanks appeared first on Child Abuse Survivor.

  • Every person you lay off from your business is ten times more likely to try and take their own life. I don't think senior executives think in those terms. I suspect many are thinking about juicing the bottom line, getting a little stock price bump, maybe making things more efficient, etc. I think large investors think about what is best for their stock values. That's why CEOs announce layoffs of 10% of the workforce and are rewarded with $100 million bonuses. The post We should be honest about the mental health impacts of layoffs appeared first […]
  • When you're young and not on the standard education/career path due to mental health, there's no career history or learned skills to fall back on. I think many employers would view you as unemployable in our current environment. I'm not saying that should be how it is, but it is likely the way it is. My story illustrates the path out of that, but it also contains some privilege. I was able to go to therapy. My family gave me a place to live while I wasn't working. I had access to learning tools. I had […]
  • Working from home opens up opportunities to people who can't, for many reasons, travel to an office every day. It can, however, be lonely at times. Finding the right balance is key. Finding the places where you can still connect with people outside of work is key. You're no longer spending a third of your day in the same location as your coworkers and connecting by default. Still, you can connect and be more involved in your community because you're not spending another couple of hours commuting. You can spend more time with your family. You […]
  • Clear, realistic expectations. Clearly defined roles. Open communication. Fair treatment. This shouldn't be that difficult, and yet here we are. The post Linked – Attaining Work-Life Balance in an Era of Burnout appeared first on Mike McBride Online. If you want to see more like this, consider subscribing to the RSS Feed.
  • o here's an app, but your manager is still going to expect you to answer emails 24×7, customers will be given your cell phone number to reach you whenever, and you'll be expected to produce 8 hours of work while also attending 4-5 hours of meetings every day. All while not making enough money to pay for childcare or pay off the loans you took to get the degree that was required to get the job in the first place. Gee, I wonder why that yoga class isn't helping. The post Employee Wellness Plans Are Likely […]
  • I think another way to understand this is our cultural obsession with "what you do" being the defacto representation of "who we are," meaning that when we stop working, it can be detrimental to our mental health. After all, if you've spent 35-40 years identifying yourself as a lawyer, what will you be when you stop working as a lawyer? The post Would Retiring Induce “Relevance Deprivation Syndrome” For You? appeared first on Mike McBride Online. If you want to see more like this, consider subscribing to the RSS Feed.