Disclosure Seems Like a Simple Word, It’s Not a Simple Thing To Do
Ah, the art of disclosure. Actually coming forward and telling someone about the childhood abuse you experienced. Seems like it should be so simple. Something bad is happening, or did happen so tell someone about it. If only…. It’s not … Continued
There Are Lots of People “Not Like You” and That’s Fine
I was reading an article recently written by college professor Rupert W Nacoste Ph.D. on Psychology Today’s website. In it, he talks about a student who suggested he include mental health conditions as an example of neo-diversity. It’s an interesting … Continued
Quick Thought Number 8 – An Example of Stigma and When We Can’t Be Open
As much progress as we’ve made in society when it comes to abuse and mental health stigma, it seems like there will always be a story like this one around to remind us why it’s not always going to be … Continued
When Self-Care Becomes Selfish Care
As you know if you’ve spent much time around here, I am an advocate for self-care. We simply have to set some time aside to care for ourselves, to re-energize ourselves, and do what is necessary for our own mental … Continued
Can We Share Unheard Voices Like Joe Strummer?
Bear with me on this. I want to take you back to the early 80s with me, in New York City. I’ve been listening to a podcast series on Spotify, The Story of the Clash, and during an episode a … Continued
When You Don’t Know What to Say
As many of you probably know since I’ve mentioned being away from the online community for a bit, last week my wife’s dad passed away, just 5 weeks after her mom had. Obviously, the grieving process for us is still … Continued
ACE Awareness – Good, Bad, Both?
If you’re not familiar with the now somewhat famous ACE studies, what we are talking about here are studies that seemed to show that the more Adverse Childhood Experiences you had, the more likely it is that you will deal … Continued
How Even Advocates Shame Victims
I want to follow up on something I shared on the News and Reviews blog yesterday. It was some comments on a blog article related to shame, and a discussion with a therapist about how shame is the thing that … Continued
How People Talking About It Helped Me
Last week, my mother in law passed away. As a husband my first thought, and my first priority, was my wife, who had lost her mother. As a man who has lost a parent, but not my mother, I also … Continued
Algorithms and Rabbit Holes in Social Media
It was just a couple of years ago that I was writing about how the social media algorithms could be shaping what we think, by giving us more of anything that we interact with. For example, Facebook and Google know … Continued