How Much Blame Should We Really Get for not Picking up on Grooming?
Think about it. Right now, this very second, you are reading this post because either you found the headline intriguing and clicked, or someone shared it with you and said you should read it, and you clicked. In both cases, you were persuaded by another person to do something. If you saw it on Facebook or other social media platform, there’s a Facebook algorithm watching you and trying to give you more stuff you like, to persuade you to keep coming back to Facebook, and you’re reading it on a device that you were persuaded to purchase by some other factor in your life.
Not to mention the fact that parents, teachers, or someone, somewhere, persuaded you to learn to read. You were persuaded, even manipulated, to go to school, study, become the sort of person who could get a well-enough paying job to own a piece of technology and pay for an internet connection, and all of that wound up with you, right here, right now.
You were “groomed” to do what you are doing right now. And yet, so many want to look at children, and make them responsible for knowing which persuasion is good for them and which isn’t.
Quick Thought #13 – More Trauma Makes More Problems More Likely, and This is Trauma
All of the caveats aside about ACE scores that I’ve written about before, (tl;dr – Yes the more childhood traumas you’ve had, the more likely you will deal with various issues as an adult, but it’s not a set fate … Continued
Just Stop – The Universe did not Cause My Abuse For My Greater Good
I was abused by people who made the decision to abuse me. I did nothing to cause it, and there was no lack of purpose to which I needed to be directed. I was a little kid being beaten, and eventually molested, for years. My purpose in life was to be a little kid. There was nothing fair about it, there was no sense to be made of why it happened, it was the result of another person’s actions which happened to be directed toward me because I was there. And, I was there by chance. Not by divine interference, just random chance.
Posing as an Advocate And Harassing Vulnerable People – Yuck!
I saw this tweet yesterday shared by a few folks, and I was curious to find out what was going on: Yesterday, I found out that someone I followed and supported on social media has been using their platforms in … Continued
Groups Who Are “Less-Than”
Let me tell you a story, a story that starts out the same way thousands of other stories start out in the US. I was in my early twenties, had just started seeing some of the real mental health struggles … Continued
You Become Who You Follow
As we all spend more time online these days, scrolling away on social media, commenting and sharing as our way to communicate with the world, a number of things are happening. One of them is that, as in the real … Continued
Combined Subscription to Both Blogs
If you hadn’t noticed before, this site actually hosts two blogs. One, my personal thoughts and writings, and the other the Survivor News and Reviews, stuff I’m sharing along with some quick thoughts, or sometimes a contribution from someone else. … Continued
You Can Still Smile, Even Wearing a Mask
I’ve seen many people in the Mental Health Advocacy arena talking about this new reality of people wearing masks in public places. The main concern seems to be losing something that is small, but can be invaluable, the connection that … Continued
COVID19 as a Classic Example of Victim-Blaming
I’ve written before about how I believe that what we often see as victim-blaming is really people with a need to feel safe finding a reason why something bad happened to that person, and why it wouldn’t happen to us. … Continued
Quick Thought #12 – Just Stop Judging, Period.
At the beginning of this Coronavirus lock down, or quarantine, or whatever you want to call it, people were, rightfully, put in their place for suggesting that if you didn’t learn a new skill, or start a new business that … Continued