Abuse

  • Long term effects

    I noticed something quite odd the other day, and while it immediately made sense to me, I think to most people, this probably wouldn’t seem completely normal. I got to thinking about the long term effects of child abuse, especially sexual abuse, that we just don’t really think about, or that really aren’t worth spending…

  • Skills of Survivors

    I saw this post in my RSS reader today, and the title jumped out at me as quite a different perspective, but as I clicked over and read the post, I found a lot to agree with. It reminds me a lot about the discussions of what would be different about me if the abuse…

  • Who do you want to be?

    I had an emailĀ conversation the other day with another survivor and they said something that I’ve seen far too many times, in one shape or other. Namely “I am a creation of what everyone wants me to be”. Most children in abusive situations become what they need to be in order to avoid the abuse….

  • We get more mail

    I got a note today that I thought my be of interest to all of you, so I’m sharing the relevant part of the email: I’m writing to introduce myself and the Letters to My Abusers Project. If you think you may be interested in publishing a letter to your abuser, you can read the…

  • Counting on my readers

    I saw this comment pop up on the site this evening, and thought this was a serious topic that I really want to have a discussion about. Unfortunately, I’m also leaving for San Antonio early in the morning so I won’t have time to give this enough thought to form a proper answer for a…