Thanks for the supportive comments on that last post. After spending the weekend away from work and away from the stresses of searching for a new job, I feel much more in control and much less fearful. The fear and uncertainty will probably creep back, but now I know the best way to handle it is to just spend time with people who care about me, and enjoy each other’s company. Seems to work pretty well at keeping me balanced. 🙂
Michael left a comment and asked an interesting question: Question for you: in order to sort of immunize myself from being an abusive person (you know that victims often become victimizers — scary but common statistic) what are the best steps? I had been verbally abusive and nearly physically abusive to my ex-spouse and…
Now, I’ve never been one to say you shouldn’t worry a little about what kids are doing online, just as you shouldn’t worry a little and be careful about what they’re doing anywhere they are. I’ve also never been one to buy the hype about how the internet is just full over predators and nothing…
It’s the Thanksgiving holiday here in the US. My day was pretty full, volunteering and serving food early in the day, and then having dinner with my family later. It was a long day, all that time being social and around people has me pretty tired, but I wanted to post a quick thought about…
That’s what Bruce Schneiner suggests is at the root of a story about a woman in South Carolina who was arrested for letting her 9 year old play at a park while she was at work. Now Bruce is an expert on security, and risk assessment and I tend to agree that we don’t assess…
Pin These all ring so true to either my own experience or the experiences of other survivors I have known through the years. One of the biggest hurdles we have to clear before we can really even begin to have a semi-normal adult life is believing that the way we grew up is the way all relationships work. Even all these years later, I still have to remind myself that what I do is good enough, at home and at work. Or that it’s OK to emotionally connect with new people. It’s really difficult to unlearn those lessons from childhood, and yet it’s so freeing to realize that what happened to us, wasn’t because any of these were true. What happened to us was the result of someone else’s actions that are completely unrelated to who we are, or what we deserved.
I was going to leave a comment on Tamara’s post, Who Am I without the Abuse?, but the more I thought about it, the more I wanted to turn it into a post and not take over her comments with my thoughts. This is a subject that was weird for me. I’m pretty sure I’ve…
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