I spent quite a bit of time finding new links last night. I needed to update the Male Survivor Resources page because a whole bunch of pages that I had linked to were just plain gone. I hope you all find the new links as useful and informative as I did in the late night hours. I’m hoping to get the other pages links all checked and added to soon, but it takes time! If you find a bad link, or have any suggestions for links, please let me know! I can use all the help I can get!
This site’s host is moving servers again, so we may be going away for a bit while all the DNS gets updated and I get things installed and running properly at the new home. I got everything saved this time though, but I’m leaving this note as a temporary head’s up until things are back…
Pin It’s disheartening to think that I’ve spent over 20 years in the online survivor community advocating that we believe survivors and act on accusations of abuse only to wind up here. This feels like we’ve gone back to the days of sexual violence being unheard of because no one would dare talk about being a victim. It’s enough to make you want to quit. I felt that way last week. As I watched my wife’s hope for women across the country leave her body while also being overwhelmingly angry at people who voted for a criminal and a rapist, I wanted to walk away and shut myself off from the world.
Instead, I stepped away for a few days and reminded myself that there will be innumerable victims of sexual abuse who can’t talk about it and need to know that they are not alone. There are growing numbers of survivors who will be losing their families and friends and need to know that they are not alone. We will all be looking for community.Â
If anything, the importance of staying online and continuing to talk about child abuse, sexual violence, mental health, and supporting vulnerable people is higher now than it has been in the entire time I’ve been doing this. Now is not the time to walk away; it’s the time to fight for survivors.
Cross posted from my professional blog. A funny thing happened the other day. I went back and read everything I wrote at the beginning of 2014. It made me laugh, because it was all about how the previous year had been dominated by big events, taking on a big new challenge at work, and spending…
Pin So, what do we do? We can definitely take advantage of the suggestions made by Lindsey Holmes in that HuffPost link above. We can also acknowledge that without available therapists, many of us are going to have to do the best we can for ourselves and each other. We are going to have to muddle through this, and the only way to muddle through is by supporting each other. No, we are not therapists and we shouldn’t really try to be. But, we can be human beings who care enough about other humans to offer support. Whether that be in person, through text or calls, on social media, etc. we can all offer something to each other. We can all share our stories and our struggles because right now there’s simply no excuse for anyone to feel like they are struggling alone.
Pin We blame the very people who have suffered the most for upsetting the nice little world we’ve made up in our heads, and we dare to talk about that being about safety.Â
Discovered a handful of new blogs this week that I’ve added to the side of the page. First a pair of abuse survivors DanDare, and Jennefer, and also a blog by someone dealing with MS called Thoughts from my broken brain. Thank you for sharing your stories with us!
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