Link – Kindness is nice, but here’s what people with mental health issues really need from you

Mark Brown raises something that someone was just pointing out to me on Twitter earlier this week. Yes, it’s important that people who need help know that seeking help is not a sign of weakness. Erasing that stigma is an important part of dealing with mental health as a society.

But, once we’ve helped someone get through that stigma, we also need to make sure there is help available for them. For far too many people in the UK, US, and everywhere else, there isn’t any.

There are also no easy answers on how to make sure that help is available. We have a lack of financial resources, as Mark makes clear when talking about the situation in the UK, but we also have a shortage of skilled people to provide therapy, and other services, we have a lack of infrastructure in rural or poor, urban areas, a lack of psychologists who could prescribe medication as needed, a severe lack of emergency services, and a lack of education in law enforcement who, unfortunately, become the front line in dealing with those emergency cases with nowhere else to go.

All of these things need to change. It’s nice, and believe me, it’s important, for all of us to drop the stigma and do what we can to support the people around us dealing with mental health problems. But if they can’t get help in emergencies, we’re going to continue to lose far too many.

I’m tired of losing people.

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/feb/02/time-to-talk-day-mental-health-sympathy-welcome-solidarity-go-further

Similar Posts

  • Sharing – The Emerging Science of Suicide Prevention

    I’m not a researcher but these two facts make me wonder if there’s not something we can do.

    If we have a list of “nudges” that can help people feel like they belong or help educate people about things like safety plans, etc. and we don’t know who is at risk and which nudge might help them, maybe we should just continue to generally be kind to the people around us. That means trying to understand what makes them feel supported, connected, etc., and doing those things consistently. It also means noticing if a “nudge” has the opposite effect, and trying something different instead.

    Help people feel like they belong, educate people about prevention resources, help them stay connected to family and friends, involve them, accept them, etc.

    Help your friends and loved ones by communicating the kinds of things that help you. When you feel disconnected or like you are a burden, what can they do to keep you connected? What things do they do that make it worse?

    When we don’t talk about these things we only make it worse, and we only continue to lose more people. We have to learn how to have these conversations. We have to be open to listening to the people closest to us and connecting to them without stigma and judgment. The researchers will keep working to learn more about prevention, but in the meantime simply caring about each other and being honest with each other is the best tool we have. We should use it.

  • Link – How to Find the Right Therapist

    “Searching for the right therapist is sort of like dating.” This is somewhat true. I’ve talked to a lot of survivors who gave up on the idea of therapy after one date. I hope they will go read this article, though I do have one small disagreement. I don’t believe there is necessarily “the one”…

  • Link – How are children exploited online? It can start with a photo

    This is true for adults too, but for children this is especially damaging. “For instance, at one presentation, a girl told Harris that some images she’d shared online had spread beyond her control. “She basically said, ‘You know, every time somebody recognizes me, every time someone smiles at me or whispers in my presence, I’m…

  • Sharing – How To Make Someone Truly Feel Heard

    Jeremy does a great job describing the skills necessary to do this. It’s well worth your time to read. Personally, the area I see people struggle with the most is the inability to sit in silence, which then leads to feeling like they need to say “something”, and that can often wind up not reserving judgment.

  • Links I’m Sharing (weekly)

    Exploring the Value of Peer Support for Mental Health 3 Lessons that Gloria Vanderbilt Taught Us About Coping with a Child’s Suicide Into the Lighthouse: the UK’s first safe space for child sexual abuse victims Florida To Require Mental Health Classes For Public School Students 14 Mental Health Related Blogs You Need to Read •…

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

To respond on your own website, enter the URL of your response which should contain a link to this post's permalink URL. Your response will then appear (possibly after moderation) on this page. Want to update or remove your response? Update or delete your post and re-enter your post's URL again. (Find out more about Webmentions.)