These sound so familiar to me as a survivor, and someone who has heard the stories of many other survivors, and adult children of alcoholics.
“As a therapist, I’ve heard hundreds of stories of children, now adults, who suffered terribly at the hands of the very people who were supposed to care for them. And yet, there’s a frequent tendency to somehow discount the pain of what was their “childhood.” They didn’t actually ever get to be children, but had to grow up almost instantaneously in order to handle day after day of being ridiculed, demeaned, abused or forgotten.
“I can’t remember too much of it. It’s a blur. What I do remember is all the fighting.”
“I just did what I had to do. I tried to stay out of his way when he was drunk.”
“One day my mom would be so sweet, but the next she’d come after me with a vengeance.”
“I didn’t tell anyone, but I was always hungry.”
Dr. Rutherford provides four steps to helping you heal if this all seems familiar to you. Consider it a rough outline to get you started in the right direction.