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Link – Little things

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

I’ve said similar things before, but maybe not this well:

“Small achievements are still achievements and celebrating them feeds our dreams and goals. It gives us fuel to move further down the road or up the mountain because we take time to look back and we realize how far we have come. We remind ourselves what we are capable of, and we use this buoyant feeling to lift us up. Reflecting on achievements, big or small, proves to yourself that you can do more than you think.”

So many survivors are waiting for the “I’m healed” moment and getting frustrated that they are still dealing with their trauma, instead of focusing on all of the ways in which they are already healing and improving the quality of their lives. Maybe take a moment to recognize those little things and pat yourself on the back for them.

https://www.confetto.space/single-post/2017/12/03/Little-things

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