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Sharing – Boundaries for Healing Childhood Trauma

This is an important message by itself.

Boundaries are essential for healing childhood trauma. They provide safety and protect you from ongoing harm from toxic, abusive family.

The article below provides many more details, but similar to what I wrote earlier this week about taking a mental health day, boundaries are personal. How I decide to interact with my family may look very different from how other survivors do it. My boundaries have changed over the years. What they look like now is different from what they were when I was struggling more with my mental health as a younger man. I still have boundaries. I define them for myself every day.

You should, too. You can decide where your boundaries are and when they can be adjusted. You decide what is safe for you. You decide who is harmful to you.

No matter how much they try, no one else gets to decide that for you.

They will try. It won’t be easy to set boundaries, but if there is one thing I have found over the years, it is that people either respect your boundaries or don’t. The ones who don’t aren’t the ones for you.

https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/boundaries-healing-childhood-trauma/

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