Shared Links (weekly) July 10, 2022

Shared Links (weekly) July 10, 2022

Sharing – The Key Differences Between Social and Emotional Loneliness

Sharing – The Key Differences Between Social and Emotional Loneliness

I think it’s important that we understand our need for both. As science keeps telling us, we are social creatures. Even introverts like me need some sort of social activity and friends. We also need those intimate relationships where we can hit those emotional connections. Romantic relationships are an obvious example here, but other relationships can also be our emotional connection.

The lack of one of these will feel like loneliness, but the “fix” will be different. If I’m well-connected to my wife but missing out on the variety of social connections that a larger friend group might provide, that’s where my focus should be, and it might show up differently. The lack of an emotional connection would also look different and brings with it a different set of risks.

Shared Links (weekly) June 12, 2022

Shared Links (weekly) June 12, 2022

Sharing – Don’t insist on being positive – allowing negative emotions has much to teach us

Sharing – Don’t insist on being positive – allowing negative emotions has much to teach us

The article goes on to discuss the various ways those emotions we are trying to avoid by always being positive are actually good for us. How sitting with and processing those emotions help us learn and grow.

Of course, the one thing I will say about that is this. Be prepared to do that work alone, or very nearly alone. The world is full of people who are not comfortable with their pain, sadness, grief, etc., and refuse to do anything but “be grateful.” They also have zero tolerance for other people “bringing them down” with their own emotions.

These people are not capable of being a support to anyone else. The refusal to acknowledge the entirety of human emotion makes them utterly incapable of sitting with someone in their pain. Sadly, as these ideas have gained popularity, they have also limited our support networks. They have created a shortage of people who will sit with us.

Shared Links (weekly) April 10, 2022

Shared Links (weekly) April 10, 2022