Sharing – The Problem of Male Grief

Sharing – The Problem of Male Grief

When my wife and I both lost our parents in a short period, I was thankful that there were people in our lives who gave us space to grieve and checked in on both of us. I’m also acutely aware of how different the reactions were as well. Part of that was the difference in relationships, my wife was much closer to her parents than I was to mine, but there was also an undertone where I was expected to be less emotional about it than she was. Again, plenty of people did better, but it was still there.

I also recognize that I was lucky to have people in my life who saw that. Many men do not have any space to grieve or process emotions other than anger. For those men, read the whole thing and learn how to create space.

Sharing – What Not to Say to Your Grieving Friend

Sharing – What Not to Say to Your Grieving Friend

I’ve seen so many examples of people who felt the need to say something to a grieving spouse, child, etc., that they wind up saying something that makes everyone who hears it cringe. There are some good examples of what not to say in the article below, but maybe this sentence is the best thing to remember:

“In the end, the best thing to say when you don’t know what to say is just that. “I don’t know what to say, but I’m here for you.” “

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Sharing – Schema-Focused Therapy: Uses, Principles, & Techniques

Sharing – Schema-Focused Therapy: Uses, Principles, & Techniques

I especially identified with the section on maladaptive schemas that may have developed during childhood because I’ve always been a big believer that children growing up in abusive situations will develop whatever mechanism they need to survive and then carry those same mechanisms into adulthood instead of learning the things they should learn as kids.

That’s a maladaptive schema if there ever was one.

Read, and learn more below:

Shared Links (weekly) July 10, 2022

Shared Links (weekly) July 10, 2022