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Sharing – Lifelong Imprints of Childhood

I found this post about how parental pressure or criticism can leave lasting impacts on children that reach well into adulthood. As Megha says:

The foundation of adulthood is laid in the early years of life. The ability to learn, sense, and memorize is at its peak in childhood. A memory formed during this time will not only be there for a while but will also be resolved in your subconscious forever.

We hear stories about this all the time. If your parents constantly compare you to an older sibling who could do no wrong, you spend much of your adult life believing you are not enough. If you come from a family that didn’t express emotion, you find it hard to be close to someone emotionally as an adult, and so on.

You take those messages about what is expected from your surroundings and adjust your behaviors and beliefs to fit in with them. It can be very difficult, not impossible, to overcome that and relearn a different message.

If this seems familiar to you, I want you to take the next step and imagine what kind of messages a survivor of childhood abuse carries from their childhood. Yeah, it’s pretty hard to feel safe. It’s hard to feel like you are enough when you spend those formative years used by an adult for their own needs. It’s tough – not impossible, to overcome those profoundly impactful messages.

Understand, however, that abuse survivors can’t just forget those messages and move on. That’s not realistic advice to give survivors, and it’s not a realistic expectation to place on survivors. These are core beliefs from childhood, and they don’t leave that quickly.

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