Two Part Series on Healing the Shame of Child Sexual Abuse

Two Part Series on Healing the Shame of Child Sexual Abuse

You have to see what happened for what it is. That includes seeing that it was a decision made by someone else and not something you deserved or attracted to yourself in any way. You were a child. Your abuser made a decision to abuse you sexually. That’s the truth of it. 

That is the start of healing.

Shared Links (weekly) Jan. 22 2023

Shared Links (weekly) Jan. 22 2023

Sharing – Seeking sunshine: Finding light in dark times

Sharing – Seeking sunshine: Finding light in dark times

What little things do you find useful? Looking over the list below, a few of them work for me, time with people who care about me, humor, and finding things I can do or look forward to are among the ways I try to find the light when things look dark to me. Some others aren’t that helpful to me often. I know people who swear by some of those, though.

Whatever your light is, please keep your eyes out for it.

Childhood Trauma and ACE Scores in the News Again

Childhood Trauma and ACE Scores in the News Again

I think that makes sense. This is consistent with previous studies. What I want to know about, though, are the 45% who don’t have depression, the 49% who don’t have anxiety, the 75% without PTSD, and the 80% with no substance abuse issues. What was different for them? What kind of help or support was available for them as children compared to the others who did suffer from these issues? What kind of trauma were they dealing with? What kind of community did they live in? What resources were made available for them?

Do You Fear Happiness?

Do You Fear Happiness?

How often, as children, did we decide to “fly under the radar” and not draw attention to something that brought us happiness because that just created a target? How many of us, as adults, still live with the fear that identifying something that makes us happy only invites someone to hurt us by taking it away? Even when there is no one there to take it, we live with that fear and don’t get too attached to anything.

My hope for all of us is to find a safe place to overcome that and enjoy the things that make us happy.

Sharing – Many people not only survive mental illness – they thrive

Sharing – Many people not only survive mental illness – they thrive

People with depression are less likely to report thriving regarding mental well-being 10 years later, but 10% of them do anyway.

Only 21% of people not diagnosed with depression reported thriving regarding their mental well-being, so it’s not like most people are living at that point anyway, for various reasons. Being diagnosed with depression doesn’t automatically make it impossible for you to recover and thrive. It’s just a bit harder.

More importantly, the article below talks about 67% of the people diagnosed with depression reporting no symptoms of it 10 years later.

People do recover from mental health issues. They can get better. It happens. Some even meet the criteria for mental well-being that only 21% of the world meets.