Rape culture?

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

Lauren has some interesting ideas about what its going to take to stop rape and sexual violence. I’m not saying I agree with everything she says here, (I would argue for a more individual responsibility approach, but I also understand that not stigmatizing rapists and abusers does enable them to continue.) but it’s all worth thinking and talking about. Plus she’s got links, links and more links to information that I’ll be looking at over the weekend!

As a male who was a victim of childhood sexual assault, I can’t condone any man who assaults a woman or another man, but I sure know plenty of people do.

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One Comment

  1. Its a sad factor to think about – that people do condone it and then don’t do anything to make convicted and registered sex abusers own up to their crimes or continue to monitor them once they are released from a system that was supposed to have cured them.

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