Jean, a “psychologist-in-training” posted a message in the forums about finding survivors of physical child abuse by a parent and/or caregiver as part of her dissertation. If you’re interested you can read more about it in her post, and contact her.
The 7th Edition is up over at Sadly Normal. As always it looks like there’s quite a lot of reading material over there. Since we’re traveling to visit family I’m going to have to just look forward to reading it when I’m back home. Hope you all have a great holiday! Technorati tags: SadlyNormal, CarnivalAgainstChildAbuse
I had planned to write this week about how little moments of joy can be such a huge help in our healing as survivors. I had planned to explain further why I chose my Irish heritage and the ability to enjoy life even in the midst of horrible suffering as the theme for this month’s…
Sent this message to all members today, but wanted to post it here as well, so everyone would see it! Pardon the interruption, but as much as I have never planned to use this broadcast message capability within Ning, I wanted everyone to be aware of what’s going on. As some of you might have…
I’m closing up last year’s business today. I just went to Prevent Child Abuse America and donated the $35 that had been raised this year through Amazon links and CafePress referrals Thank you to everyone for making that possible. I’ve also renewed this domain for another year, so here’s to hoping this site can be…
Pin The context for this quote is a handful of stories where someone felt ashamed of an event or something that they’d allowed people to believe about them that wasn’t true. Marisa goes on to talk about how when we have something we won’t discuss, it creates a separation from other people, and that separation can take away from humanness. Our interactions with other people are blocked off. We know we aren’t sharing our whole selves with the people we should be. That block can protect us from potential pain, but it also prevents us from having all the benefits of having close relationships with other humans.
Doesn’t that sound exactly like growing up keeping our abuse secret?
We grow up with shame around something that was never our fault. That shame prevents us from fully connecting with other human beings. That lack of connection harms our mental health as adults. We struggle to heal without one of the most powerful tools in our arsenal as human beings, other people. We keep our secrets and hide our shame, meaning we will never know the healing power of being accepted and loved by those who know our whole selves.
If you’ve been following along in the comments below, you know that the big thing I want for this site, more than anything else, is to have it become almost a community of survivors. That’s absolutely the goal I have in mind, but it’s the details that are the stumbling block. I mean really, what…
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