I started writing this post in my head last night, while across the country, my wife’s cousin was awaiting news on her toddler’s heart transplant. Ever since we learned about his heart problems and the likelihood that he would eventually need a transplant, I think most of us simply tried not to think about it beyond that one sentence. At least I know I did, because I didn’t want to spend too much time thinking about how a heart for a little boy would become available to be transplanted.
Let’s face it, there’s nothing comfortable about that subject. It isn’t something we want to talk about, think about, or even deal with. Yet, there’s a little boy who, while not out of the woods, has hope for the future because someone was able to have that conversation, and make the decision to donate the organs of their own child. I don’t envy either one of those families for the discussions they’ve been forced to have, the ideas they have had to think through, and decisions they have had to make.
But they did it, and it has made a difference. Given that, as much as it might be a difficult thing to talk about, please consider organ donation, and talk to your family so that they are familiar with your wishes.
All of this got me thinking about discussions we have, or choose not to have.
I write often about mental health issues, and child abuse. Both are topics that can be pretty uncomfortable to talk about. Dealing with both can be a very isolating and lonely experience. Mostly, that’s because we don’t like to talk about it. The events of this week have once again reminded me what a difference talking about the things we are uncomfortable talking about can make.
How many survivors and mental health sufferers are giving up because they don’t see any hope? How much of a difference could it make if, instead of being isolated and feeling hopeless, those people could see that they are not alone, that others are going through the same things, and have been through those same things and gotten out on the other side?
There may not be a straight line to saving lives in the same way that donating organs can be, but do not for a second believe that talking about abuse and depression doesn’t save lives.
Talk about it, and let other people talk about it, no matter how uncomfortable it may be.