It’s a Good Question – Why Aren’t We Talking More About The Sex Abuse Scandal at Ohio State?
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It’s a Good Question – Why Aren’t We Talking More About The Sex Abuse Scandal at Ohio State?

These men will never get their day in court to read their victim statements, and be cheered on by the public, but given how uncomfortable we are with the subject matter, even if they did, would we welcome it the same way we did during the trial of Larry Nasser? If not, what does that say about us?

Daisy Coleman Found Her Voice, But Her Struggle Didn’t Stop

Daisy Coleman Found Her Voice, But Her Struggle Didn’t Stop

Which brings us to Daisy. She did not get her justice from the court system, quite the opposite. But, she did something else that many assume is a sign of “being healed”, she found her voice. She told her story, she had a movie made where she could speak her truth to the whole world. Surely, that is healed, right?

As we now know, that probably wasn’t the case. I assume that many people who watched that documentary went on to become fans of Daisy, admiring her for having the courage to tell her story, happy for her that she was able to overcome, but that had nothing to do with the reality of what surviving actually is.

The coincidence that I spoke of came this morning, when I popped over to Twitter during a quick coffee break, and saw Rachel Denhollander, another survivor who’s made an appearance in a documentary, Athlete A, on her involvement with the Larry Nasser case, talking about this article:

Daisy Coleman’s Death Lays Bare the Myth of ‘Surviving

Quick Thought #13 – More Trauma Makes More Problems More Likely, and This is Trauma

Quick Thought #13 – More Trauma Makes More Problems More Likely, and This is Trauma

All of the caveats aside about ACE scores that I’ve written about before, (tl;dr – Yes the more childhood traumas you’ve had, the more likely you will deal with various issues as an adult, but it’s not a set fate for everyone.) I think we can, however, accept that children who dealt with more traumatic…

What If I Told You Most Abuse Survivors Are Not Who We Think They Are?

What If I Told You Most Abuse Survivors Are Not Who We Think They Are?

What if a study found that 65% of sexual abuse survivors are “mentally healthy” as adults? Would you believe that? Granted, it might be difficult to swallow that as fact. I’m fairly skeptical of exactly how this study was conducted myself, but I also have to go back to my understanding of statistics and math…

To Create Change, You Have to Move
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To Create Change, You Have to Move

Over the weekend, we spent some time in New Orleans, and stopped by the sculpture garden in City Park. One particular installation grabbed my attention as a metaphor for childhood abuse and trauma. Often, when speaking to survivors, I hear them describe being “stuck”. I understand this, as it is common for many of us…