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Sharing – Why Healing from Trauma Can Get Harder As We Age
As I’ve said before, we were too busy simply surviving the abuse to learn the things we were supposed to learn as children, so we often start out behind in various ways.
Of course, in order to learn those things we need to do the work as an adult, to first unlearn the things we learned, and then learn the things we didn’t learn to start with. This is, perhaps, one of the real tragedies of so many survivors not even telling anyone, let alone starting this work, for decades.
That’s so many more years of doing the things we need to unlearn, and undoing that is just going to be more difficult the longer this has been true for us. So, what can we do?
It’s Amazing What You Get Used To
When Nedra talks about growing up in an alcoholic family, naturally that was something that resonated with me. Growing up my father was an alcoholic. It was normal for me to fear your father, especially when they’d been drinking. It was normal for there to be violence at home. It was normal for children to be physically attacked for as little as making too much noise.
Perhaps worst of all, it was also normal to keep it all secret, to not share what happens at home outside of the immediate family.
Which made it all the more easy for the sexual abuse I suffered later to be kept secret. And, in some odd way, for it also to seem normal.
Links I’m Sharing (weekly)
Widow of Columbus firefighter remembers husband, talks need for mental health awareness Forensics and Mental Health What It Means to Be a Mental Health Advocate—And How to Become One To Others Who Have Experienced Trauma as Children Abuse is Not A Contest Of Who Had It Worse Mental Health isn’t something we should be afraid…
Link – Child abuse and survivor support helplines
This list is from iTV and covers the resources available to those of you in the U.K. Keep it handy! http://www.itv.com/thismorning/child-abuse-survivor-support-helplines
This Week’s Links (weekly) | Survivors News and Reviews http://t.co/SqPgzNSAao