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Sharing – How to Heal Childhood Trauma Without Forgiving the Person Who Caused It
If you choose to forgive, know that it is your choice, including what forgiveness means to you. I’ve talked to many survivors who have made that choice, and how they define forgiveness isn’t always the same Know, however, that it absolutely does not mean you have to now be silent and never bring it up again, and know that people who desire your silence, are not your allies.
I will agree with Roseanna about that, it’s not about forgiveness, it’s about healing.
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Sharing – Acknowledging Limits – Helping Others
One of the things I immediately recommend to anyone asking about starting a blog like mine is to set your boundaries. If you don’t, you’ll burn out and be gone within 6 months. Decide what you will say, what you won’t, and how much time you’ll dedicate to writing for the blog and interacting with people online. Because if you don’t you’ll find yourself unable to cope and you’ll bail on it.
I’d say the same thing about anything. Yes, be with someone who needs support, but set your boundaries around it, and make sure you are still taking care of your own life. Because the only thing worse than someone not sitting and listening to a friend or loved one when they are struggling, is having some do it for a while, and then disappear. That doesn’t do anyone any good. We all need you to be well just as much as we need you to stick with relationships when someone is dealing with healing, or mental health issues.
Set your boundaries, and be willing to stick to them, lovingly. As Liz says in her piece, it’s not about you doing everything, it’s about you pointing them to a whole host of options for support. That is what being a good support system is all about.
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Shared Links (weekly) April 4, 2021
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Ask a Black Therapist: 5 tips to support Black mental health during the Derek Chauvin trial
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A ground breaking campaign that changed the mental health landscape
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How to Save a Life – Suicidality is on the rise in 2021. Talking about it can change everything.
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Book of the Month March 2021 – A Tiny Spark of Hope: Healing Childhood Trauma
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I Use Everything in My Resilience Toolkit to Keep My Mental and Physical Health Intact.
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Reviews Elsewhere – Level Up by Michelle Ribiero
Michael Dinich provides some insight into a book designed to help all of us become mentally stronger, and build resiliency:
Michelle Ribiero’s guidebook for mental toughness transcends its goal by being more than a self-help book, but a testament that anyone, anywhere, can achieve their goals with the right advice.
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Sharing – Resiliency: Strong & Broken At The Same Time
I see so many survivors stuck in a black/white perception. You’re either healed, or broken. You are strong and resilient, or you’re weak. You have a mental health problem, or you don’t.
When the truth is so much more complicated than all of that.
