Reviews Elsewhere – Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

Reviews Elsewhere – Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

I’ll repeat what I’ve said many times. Kids are often vulnerable because they have no close adults to trust and lean on for support. No one is there modeling what a mature sense of self is, so they aren’t learning it. I don’t necessarily agree with everything Drs. Maté and Neufeld said in this interview that I’m sure I wouldn’t agree with everything in their book, but on this point, I agree. Kids need trusted adults who make them feel safe and loved.

Yet we keep creating a society that makes it harder to provide that for kids. We are paying a price for that.

Two Reviews Elsewhere – Breaking Through Depression; The Balanced Brain

Two Reviews Elsewhere – Breaking Through Depression; The Balanced Brain

It might not seem like much, but the more we learn about depression, the more we might be able to do for more people. That’s why the article linked above gives me some hope. We need more information from research, from professionals, and from those with lived experience if we are going to make a dent in treating depression. Lives are at stake.

Reviews Elsewhere – The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in Healing Trauma

Reviews Elsewhere – The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in Healing Trauma

There are certain books that I’ve seen discussed in the survivor community so often that it can be easy to overlook them when talking about recommendations for someone starting out on their healing journey. Bessel van der Kolk’s book about healing from trauma, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in Healing Trauma, falls into that category.

Reviews Elsewhere – Three Books For Managing Fear and Anxiety

Reviews Elsewhere – Three Books For Managing Fear and Anxiety

I saw this post earlier today, and let’s face it, we all could use some help occasionally with fear and anxiety. As the author says: Because there are many self-help books on the market, it can be difficult to decide which one to read. So I have recommended three: Brantley’s Calming Your Anxious Mind, Bourne’s…

Reviews Elsewhere – What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

Reviews Elsewhere – What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

“Here’s a theory: Maybe I had not really been broken this whole time. Maybe I had been a human—flawed and still growing but full of light nonetheless”

I want all of us to ponder that line for a little bit and think about it. Consider the possibility that you, as a survivor, are not broken. Maybe you are just human. Maybe everything you see as broken is just a natural reaction to abuse in the same way every human carries things forward into their lives from their past. That’s not to say the harm isn’t real. Indeed it is very much real. It might not, however, have changed the possibility of our light still being inside us.

You are still human and you still have value in this world.

Reviews Elsewhere – 9 Of The Best Books For Social Skills Improving your life

Reviews Elsewhere – 9 Of The Best Books For Social Skills Improving your life

Growing up, I was timid and socially awkward. There are other reasons for this, but let’s be honest, hiding my secrets and being much too busy surviving to bother with learning social skills played a big role. I had to learn later in life; even at age 54, I’m still learning. If you find yourself in the same situation, perhaps one of these could help. If you know of a teen or child, who could use some help with social skills, there are items on the list for them too.