Thanks for the supportive comments on that last post. After spending the weekend away from work and away from the stresses of searching for a new job, I feel much more in control and much less fearful. The fear and uncertainty will probably creep back, but now I know the best way to handle it is to just spend time with people who care about me, and enjoy each other’s company. Seems to work pretty well at keeping me balanced. 🙂
The 7th Edition is up over at Sadly Normal. As always it looks like there’s quite a lot of reading material over there. Since we’re traveling to visit family I’m going to have to just look forward to reading it when I’m back home. Hope you all have a great holiday! Technorati tags: SadlyNormal, CarnivalAgainstChildAbuse
Sue’s gotten herself riled up over a book that was written to defend “Boylovers”. She’s titles her post “Rethinking free speech”, and while I think we can all relate to that reaction, I’m not sure that it’s the right one. Here’s my thinking on this. Let’s suppose there was a law that said you couldn’t…
Pin It’s enough to make you just give it all up and walk away.
That, to me, is cancel culture. I know there’s a lot of talk about cancel culture and whether it even exists or not, but frankly, to me, the real canceling that goes on online is when the good, thoughtful and caring, people just walk away instead of being here and having their voices matter. Because they’re tired. They’re tired of the constant outrage, the constant anger directed at them for not doing, and believing, everything random people expect them to. The vitriol directed at them in direct messages, comments, and tweets for simply trying to have a conversation, from all sides. For not supporting conspiracy groups, for not using the correct words, for not advocating for exactly the same things, in exactly then same way. Because if you don’t “agree” with them and show your support, in clear, and often financial, ways, you are the enemy.
Seriously, it gets old. It’s toxic. It’s exhausting. It makes you question why you even bother with this at all. I, for one, don’t need this in my life on a regular basis. No one does. So, instead of having real conversations about real issues, and doing real education, we’re walking away and letting the worst kinds of people win the internet.
I’m tired, but I’m not ready to do that. If 19 years of working to educate people, and let anyone know that they are not alone as a survivor, or as a person dealing with mental health issues, isn’t enough for you, and you can’t understand that all of the things I do online to make this happen I do in my spare time, for free, then you can go somewhere else.
Take all of your fake outrage and fake “facts” with you too.
Hope your Christmas was good. Ours was actually pretty nice. It didn’t used to be this way. Christmas growing up was about getting presents, obviously, but it was also very stressful, never knowing where the family fights were going to start, what sort of snide comments were going to be made about you, etc. I…
I was thinking about this the other day, in terms of what groups you belong to, what terms you use to describe yourself, etc. Mostly it came to mind because someone made reference to the fact that I didn’t seem like a typical New Yorker, even though that is where I grew up. Did growing…
Should be an interesting topic for this month’s Carnival Against Child Abuse. I have to admit that this topic is one I don’t tend to write much about, as I don’t really know much about being a “child”, even as a kid I acted like an adult most of the time, and I don’t think…
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