This is why I do this..

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

I’m sitting in my office crying. Thankfully the door’s shut and there’s no one standing outside knocking at the moment, because if they were, they’d have to figure out just why the hell I’m sitting in my office with tears rolling down my face and I don’t think I could even tell them.

This is why I’m crying!. (Darn you Natalie!) And, ultimately, this is why I do this site, and hope to see more people doing sites like it. Abuse survivors should never have to feel alone, or ashamed of what happened to us. The more we talk about it, the more people can see that they’re not alone, the more they can seek out the kind of support and love that we all need.

Nat, you know that I wish you nothing but the best, even if you did make me cry..:)

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