Curt Rosengren posted today about making everyday a special occasion. He offered up this story by Ann Wells of the LA Times. It’s an attitude that, as hard as it is some days, is important to live by. None of us know how long we will be here, or how long our loved ones will be here. We should treat every day we get to spend with them as the most special of occasions.
Lisa from Sadly Normal will be hosting this months edition of the Carnival Against Child Abuse. She’s got some great suggested topics listed for the last edition of the year, as well as an offer to host your writings if you don’t have your own blog. Her topics have got me thinking a bit. Hopefully,…
With childhood sexual abuse a hot topic in the media right now, I’ve seen numerous news stories, and opinion pieces all over the internet. I’m sure you’ve seen plenty of them as well. I will not be adding to those voices more than I already have. There’s enough of that out there. I do, however,…
Pin The title of this post is an actual question posed to me yesterday. In the wake of the settlement of a lawsuit by victims of sexual abuse against Michigan State University, my wife was listening to public radio, and the reporter plainly stated that despite the settlement and the financial penalty, the women involved would…
Saw another nice bit of helpful information over at the Occupational Adventure blog today. Curt lnks to an article, ten tips to build belief in yourself and offers his own, condensed list. (That makes for easy printing to use as a reminder to yourself.) I can attest that I’ve done some of things on this…
Pin As you might imagine these sorts of activities are severely traumatizing, and Lauren’s response in the article I linked makes that clear. I also want to address the more subtle trauma here though. That trauma comes from those of you who will read this story and immediately respond “well she shouldn’t have been taking those photos”.
I want to be very clear here. That statement is 100% blaming the victim. This is the same exact thing as saying a woman shouldn’t have walked alone at night, or had a drink, or a child shouldn’t have been so friendly with strangers, etc. Lauren didn’t do anything wrong. What she and her husband do inside of their marriage is none of our business, no laws were broken, nothing untoward was going on. She was just a wife living her life and she was hacked. The person who stole these photos was the one breaking the law. The people sharing and selling those photos were breaking the law. Save your moral outrage for them and the people requesting to have these photos used to create fake rape videos because she was a rape victim.
Anyone who can read the entire story and walk away indignant more at her for having taken photos that were perfectly legal and a personal choice instead of the people who have violated her are simply violating her again.
With the big media attention that’s been paid recently to things like the Sandusky case at Penn State, the Boys Scouts, Jimmy Savile in the UK, and other abuse cases, it seems like there almost a hunt for the “next” big story, leading to a handful of accusations being made, and being made very, very…
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Thanks for posting this.
It is a nice thought 🙂 But then you have those days where you’ve worn yourself out handling all those special occasions and that’s when you need to do a nice thing for yourself. Like a home spa treatment or anything that soothes you.
And then of course there’s the days where you just want to drive your truck over some mud mountains to work off stress 🙂