Walking away

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

Well, I took my own advice today. All that talk about knowing your limits and knowing when a relationship is demanding too much, made a lot of sense when it came to my volunteer commitments with the Friends of the Library. I realized that while I enjoyed the work I had done there, and was proud of it, that continuing to be involved was draining me mentally and emotionally.

There have been too many times when I’ve come home from lengthy meetings exhausted, stressed, and in a very crabby mood. Volunteer work shouldn’t have this much of a negative effect on my emotional health. It’s all been too much stress for me to continue to deal with. So I made the decision to walk away today. I think it was the right thing to do for myself.

That does mean I’ll have a tad more free time, which is nice. Maybe I’ll finally get around to all those tech projects I’ve been meaning to do. 😉

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