Spousal Support

I was exchanging emails earlier this week with someone around the issue of trying to support a spouse who is a survivor. Obviously, being the survivor in my marriage, I’m not the expert on how to handle this, but I was able to offer some insight into typical male survivor behavior and mindsets that I hope will prove useful.

It did get me to thinking a couple of things, though. One, where are the good web resources for spouses or significant others of abuse survivors? Do you guys know of any worth sharing?

Secondly, as survivors, what are some of the things you wish your significant other knew about? What are the most important things they need to know to help you? What mistakes should they avoid?

Thirdly, for those of you who may have survivors as significant others, what are your thoughts? What do you think are the most important things that you know? What mistakes have you made?

Any and all input is appreciated!

Tags: childabuse, spouse, survivors

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  1. Wow, Mike, this is cool! You’ve always got such thought-provoking posts. Shucks, I know there is a great book written for support/significant others by Laura Davis and/or Ellen Bass, of “Courage to Heal” fame, but I can’t remember the title of it. It’s good. As far as Internet support, I have a feeling that’s a pretty wide-open niche.

  2. As a spouse this is the website I go to for help. I feel comfortable. I don’t know where to go on the internet and I don’t want to get lost on the way. Its hard to ask for help.

    Most important thing I know is that I know. I do not want to make any mistakes. That is why I am here I guess.

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