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Not Fooling

So it’s April 1st. But for me, especially this year, it’s no time for pranks. 😉

April 1 was the day of my first date with the woman who would become my wife, in 2000, so it’s always been a day of great beginnings. This year, April 1 is the day I arrived in Greenville, SC to start a new beginning. Even though I’m now apart from my wife, temporarily, the anniversary of that beginning seems like an appropriate time to be in South Carolina and starting the next chapter of our lives.

Of course, it’s also tiring. anything this new is going to be. Since I left Columbus yesterday, everything has been new. Nothing is part of my normal routine. In fact, I don’t even have a routine! It’s a bit unsettling, I admit to that, but I know that there will be a new routine and this will all be old hat shortly. It’s just a matter of getting through the change, and coming out the other side.

The other thing about this being April 1 that is no joke is that this also marks the beginning of Child Abuse Prevention Month. There are a number of resources listing ways you can get involved on that site, but to me the best thing you can do as a survivor is simply share your story. You will be amazed at how many people will be drawn to your story, and empowered to speak up about their own story, even if it is just to you. I’ve met so many people through this site, and connected with people who I already knew, and had no idea we shared our survivorship until they learned my story, and felt safe to share theirs with me.

Appropriately, Tracie is also dedicating the April version of the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse to “Speaking Out”. There is no better way to share your story than to submit a blog post to the carnival!

So, that’s what’s going on in my head tonight. Sorry if it seems a bit disjointed, I’m feeling a bit disjointed so that would make sense. 😉

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