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What We Really Need is Compassion

posted in: Recommended Reading 0 |
Reading Time: 2 minutes

I see this a lot in our communities as well. Again, empathy when dealing with an individual child, or supporting a loved one with a mental health struggle is great, but trying to feel the pain of all of the abuse survivors we are likely to come across in the world online, is a sure way to overwhelm yourself and burn out. I’ve seen it over and over again. Much like COVID-19, these issues are global, and huge. Trying to take on that much pain is an impossible task, and isn’t actually going to be helpful. Much better, is to develop compassion. As the guests on the show discuss, compassionate emotions push us to act. That act, helping others, does more good for them, but is also good for us. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, and shutting down, we are taking some small amount of control over the situation, and acting on it in a way to helps. We become the helpers that Mr. Rogers so famously talked about. Being a helper, makes us happier. It sets aside our own anxiety and struggle to do something, which is always a good way to move beyond those things.

So, the question may be not only what are you doing to take care of yourself during this time of great anxiety, but what are you doing to help others?… Read More

Just Stop – The Universe did not Cause My Abuse For My Greater Good

posted in: Child Abuse 2 |
Reading Time: 5 minutes

I was abused by people who made the decision to abuse me. I did nothing to cause it, and there was no lack of purpose to which I needed to be directed. I was a little kid being beaten, and eventually molested, for years. My purpose in life was to be a little kid. There was nothing fair about it, there was no sense to be made of why it happened, it was the result of another person’s actions which happened to be directed toward me because I was there. And, I was there by chance. Not by divine interference, just random chance. … Read More

Social Media can Be Good or Bad For Our Mental Health, Depending on Who We Follow

posted in: Depression, Recommended Reading 0 |
Reading Time: 6 minutes

I write often about the connection between social media use and mental health. If you’ve seen any of my previous posts, you know that I tend to be doubtful of there being any direct tie between simply using social media, … Read More

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