Who Defines You?

Who Defines You?

Yes, I can’t go back to being a child again like I was before the abuse, and none of us can turn back time and do that. That shouldn’t be our definition of “healing”. But, maybe our definition of healing should include having a base, a life, or an identity, that is grounded in what we want from life, as opposed to just rearranging our identify in response to abuse.

How to Protect Kids from Predators Without a Need For New Laws

How to Protect Kids from Predators Without a Need For New Laws

It’s something I’ve advocated for over the years but today I came across a quote on Cecil Murphey’s blog that sums it up perfectly: Looking back, I now know she chose me even before she talked to me. I’m sure she spotted the longing in my eyes and the loneliness that I projected out of…

Relationships are Hard for Survivors, We Don’t Know Ourselves

Relationships are Hard for Survivors, We Don’t Know Ourselves

I recently saw a link to an article that was posted back a few months ago on the Good Therapy website: Why Hiding Who We Are Hurts Us While the article is about relationships, and marriage counseling in particular, part of it really resonated with me as a survivor. It even matches some of the…

Taking the Network Offline

I had been toying with the notion that the Survivor’s Network, in it’s new form, just wasn’t working for anyone. Recently, I was contacted by someone rather upset that their real name was attached to their account there, and thus was being indexed by Google, asking me to remove them. I took advantage of that…

Social Network for Survivors and Supporters

I’ve been spending some time coming up with this, and I think it’s finally ready to be unveiled. I’ve created a Social Network just for Survivors, and the folks who are trying to support and love survivors. To quote the “why” from the site: You may be asking yourself why create another social networking site?…