Overcoming

You know what? I was eating my lunch and the screensaver came on my PC this afternoon. My screensaver in XP is set to randomly show pictures from the My Pictures folder, and I put a bunch of different pictures from different trips in there. Now normally that isn’t exactly news worthy, or even blog worthy, but today was different. Today I really looked at some of those pictures, and thought about what they represent.

They represent all the things I never thought I could do. I never really thought that going to Yellowstone and taking some amazing pictures was something I could do. I never saw myself as being strong enough to take a trip like that, by myself, and enjoy it quite the way I did.

Maybe most of you don’t quite get how it affected me today. But I think that if you’ve spent years of your life consumed by guilt, self-doubt, and depression, you know that being strong enough to take control of your own life is something quite extraordinary. I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished thus far, and I’m grateful to the people, most notably my wonderful wife, who’ve supported me in becoming the person I am today, and the person I still strive to become.

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