Angela and I are spending a quiet New Year’s Eve at home, which is just fine with me, being with her is the only place in the world I would choose to be on any special occasion.
As we look back at the tragedies and triumphs of 2004, both personal and world-wide, I hope we can all resolve to learn to make healthy decisions and enjoy all the little things life has to offer in 2005.
Pin Many survivors like to think they know what their future holds, and many of them end up being correct, because they spend so much time trying to control their life that they don’t ever really experience any big changes. I’m here to tell you, however, that is no way to live. If there is…
Pin As we spend more time online these days, scrolling away on social media, commenting, and sharing as our way of communicating with the world, a number of things are happening. One of them is that, as in the real world, we become the people we surround ourselves with. It’s not like we one day decided…
Pin It’s disheartening to think that I’ve spent over 20 years in the online survivor community advocating that we believe survivors and act on accusations of abuse only to wind up here. This feels like we’ve gone back to the days of sexual violence being unheard of because no one would dare talk about being a victim. It’s enough to make you want to quit. I felt that way last week. As I watched my wife’s hope for women across the country leave her body while also being overwhelmingly angry at people who voted for a criminal and a rapist, I wanted to walk away and shut myself off from the world.
Instead, I stepped away for a few days and reminded myself that there will be innumerable victims of sexual abuse who can’t talk about it and need to know that they are not alone. There are growing numbers of survivors who will be losing their families and friends and need to know that they are not alone. We will all be looking for community.Â
If anything, the importance of staying online and continuing to talk about child abuse, sexual violence, mental health, and supporting vulnerable people is higher now than it has been in the entire time I’ve been doing this. Now is not the time to walk away; it’s the time to fight for survivors.
Yesterday marked an anniversary for me. Nothing big, but it was important to that time of my life. 6 years ago yesterday I started working at my current employer. Starting this job then was a big deal, not because of the job necessarily but because it marked the final corner turn in my recovery. After…
Regardless of which side of the going to war fence you are on, I hope you can at least agree that the families of the servicemen and women who are currently deployed in the Middle East deserve our support at this time. In that vein, Natalie is setting up Operation Civilian Support to: – Accept…
This afternoon, one of the folks I follow on Twitter regularly, Jennifer Leggio, wrote a blog post about the loss of her father. Even though she hadn’t seen him in 30 years, his death was hard on her: Because over the last year I’ve had one too many people say to me, “If you hadn’t…
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