Leah pointed to an interesting blog that is all about Jewish survivors of sexual violence. While I’m not Jewish, I’ll be reading it and keeping an eye out for common issues that affect all survivors. 🙂
I’ll have more to say later, it’s been a crazy-busy couple of weeks but things should get a little closer to normal soon!
The second edition is up! Looks like there is plenty of good reading material in there. Hopefully, I’ll have time to poke around in it soon!
I got a note today that I thought my be of interest to all of you, so I’m sharing the relevant part of the email: I’m writing to introduce myself and the Letters to My Abusers Project. If you think you may be interested in publishing a letter to your abuser, you can read the…
I saw this post over at Jewish Survivors of Sexual Violence Speak Out about the lasting effects of sexual abuse on boys as they grow into adulthood. It’s stuff we don’t hear often when we hear about boys being abused, but it’s information that needs to be out there. Men who are living with a…
Pin I want to follow up on something I shared on the News and Reviews blog yesterday. It involved comments on a blog article related to shame and a discussion with a therapist about how shame tells us we are broken and different and makes us see ourselves as outcasts, no matter how much we may…
Pin As you might imagine these sorts of activities are severely traumatizing, and Lauren’s response in the article I linked makes that clear. I also want to address the more subtle trauma here though. That trauma comes from those of you who will read this story and immediately respond “well she shouldn’t have been taking those photos”.
I want to be very clear here. That statement is 100% blaming the victim. This is the same exact thing as saying a woman shouldn’t have walked alone at night, or had a drink, or a child shouldn’t have been so friendly with strangers, etc. Lauren didn’t do anything wrong. What she and her husband do inside of their marriage is none of our business, no laws were broken, nothing untoward was going on. She was just a wife living her life and she was hacked. The person who stole these photos was the one breaking the law. The people sharing and selling those photos were breaking the law. Save your moral outrage for them and the people requesting to have these photos used to create fake rape videos because she was a rape victim.
Anyone who can read the entire story and walk away indignant more at her for having taken photos that were perfectly legal and a personal choice instead of the people who have violated her are simply violating her again.
Yes it’s been a full year since Marj started the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse, and from the look of this month’s carnival, hosting over on her blog, this may be the best one yet! She’s got 30 posts linked in this edition, so there’s plenty to read, and talk about. Please, take a look,…
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