Just had to link to this post about the warning signs of inappropriate adult behavior toward children. It is that important, and it’s something we need not make excuses for or look the other way. Child abuse is a serious problems that can only be prevented through serious efforts.
Also, see their post about signs of adults with sexual behavior problems.
Literally, the best reward I get from keeping up this site are emails like this one: It’s been a week since I made the call to Survivors UK, the London-based child abuse organisation. Then I found your site, no.2 when I googled. I get a date for my therapy to start in a few weeks….
With the big media attention that’s been paid recently to things like the Sandusky case at Penn State, the Boys Scouts, Jimmy Savile in the UK, and other abuse cases, it seems like there almost a hunt for the “next” big story, leading to a handful of accusations being made, and being made very, very…
I saw this post at Robert Scoble’s today, where he talks about the private struggles of people’s lives. Lives that you might be tempted to assume are quite perfect, but which really aren’t. It reminded me very much of why this blog exists. I spent so many years feeling like I was the only person…
You know what? I was eating my lunch and the screensaver came on my PC this afternoon. My screensaver in XP is set to randomly show pictures from the My Pictures folder, and I put a bunch of different pictures from different trips in there. Now normally that isn’t exactly news worthy, or even blog…
I was going to leave a comment on Tamara’s post, Who Am I without the Abuse?, but the more I thought about it, the more I wanted to turn it into a post and not take over her comments with my thoughts. This is a subject that was weird for me. I’m pretty sure I’ve…
Pin I could not heal until I unlearned that my abuse was something I somehow caused. Unlearning that opened up the possibility of learning something different, namely, that I was abused because someone decided to abuse me. Did that happen overnight? Of course not! Unlearning is a process, and the more closely we identify with a belief, the more difficult it becomes to unlearn it. So many survivors learn at a very early age to keep secrets, that bad things will happen if they tell anyone.
People who’ve never had that belief drilled into their young minds wonder why victims wait decades to come forward and tell their stories. That’s why! That belief is hard to unlearn. Many of us grew up with silence being the thing that prevents the abuse from being worse. Why should we start discussing it? If you tried to tell someone as a child and got shut down, this only gets worse.Â
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