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Can You Give Eight Minutes to a Loved One in Need?

ByMike McBride Reading Time: 1 minute

According to this clip, that’s all the time it takes to help someone in pain feel good. Eight minutes. But that’s eight minutes where you simply hold space for them, not eight minutes of you speaking or trying to “fix” them. Eight minutes of simply being with them in their pain.

Can you do that for them? I like to think that I would be the person some of my friends would reach out to and ask for eight minutes of my time, but I’m afraid that too many of us aren’t thinking of reaching out and aren’t good about sitting with them when they do.

I want to change that.

 

 

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