It’s up over at From Tracie’s blog. She’s chosen the “hope and Joy” theme for this month, very similar to my brief post earlier this week about the importance of fun! (Which I did submit, but seems like it got lost somewhere in the submission process. Oh well, it happens, I’ll just submit it again next month. 😉
Anyway, go check out all the good posts in this month’s carnival!
Want to know the quickest way to depression? Leave CNN on all day. I guarantee the non stop war coverage will leave you unable to deal with life. You see, the thing is, we have 24 hour news coverage, but our minds were never designed to handle non-stop war coverage. We can be concerned for…
So it’s April 1st. But for me, especially this year, it’s no time for pranks. 😉 April 1 was the day of my first date with the woman who would become my wife, in 2000, so it’s always been a day of great beginnings. This year, April 1 is the day I arrived in Greenville,…
Pin The context for this quote is a handful of stories where someone felt ashamed of an event or something that they’d allowed people to believe about them that wasn’t true. Marisa goes on to talk about how when we have something we won’t discuss, it creates a separation from other people, and that separation can take away from humanness. Our interactions with other people are blocked off. We know we aren’t sharing our whole selves with the people we should be. That block can protect us from potential pain, but it also prevents us from having all the benefits of having close relationships with other humans.
Doesn’t that sound exactly like growing up keeping our abuse secret?
We grow up with shame around something that was never our fault. That shame prevents us from fully connecting with other human beings. That lack of connection harms our mental health as adults. We struggle to heal without one of the most powerful tools in our arsenal as human beings, other people. We keep our secrets and hide our shame, meaning we will never know the healing power of being accepted and loved by those who know our whole selves.
I see that the July edition of the Carnival Against Child Abuse is coming up, and the host wants to do a Freedom Theme in honor of US Independence Day falling this month. Being a July 4th baby myself, how could I resist? I’ve always found freedom to be an interesting concept. In this case,…
Pin Yes, I can’t go back to being a child again like I was before the abuse, and none of us can turn back time and do that. That shouldn’t be our definition of “healing”. But, maybe our definition of healing should include having a base, a life, or an identity, that is grounded in what we want from life, as opposed to just rearranging our identify in response to abuse.
This past weekend, as I do most every year, I spent some time at the Dublin Ohio Irish Festival. As we listened to one of the many rollicking Irish songs being played, I couldn’t help but think about the history of the Irish, and the way it’s captured in song. The lyrics speak of oppression,…
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I’m so sorry that your submission got lost. We had some issues with the Blog Carnival site this month. 🙁