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Link – Behind the scenes at the Child Abuse Squad
This is a fascinating look into the workings of the people who investigate child abuse in Australia. There is just so much to take away from this, but I truly loved this quote: “Detective Chief Inspector Yeomans says he wants more people to talk openly about the issue of child sexual abuse, hoping it will…
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Link – It’s official: antidepressants are not snake oil or a conspiracy – they work
There is still much we don’t really know about why they work, or why they don’t work for some people, but I agree with Mark when he says this: “The upshot of this, the most intensive piece of meta-analysis ever conducted into antidepressants, is that the millions of people (including me) who take them –…
Link – You Don’t Get a Childhood When You Grow Up in an Alcoholic Family
I think this pretty well describes it for me, but I also know the effects it had on me are different than they may be for other children of alcoholics. I see different effects within my own family even. I was the kid who felt the need to keep everything working. I didn’t like the…
Sharing – Queer survivors of sexual abuse are frequently blamed for their own victimization
I’ve talked about this before. As a male survivor, I have spent years on this site dealing with people that simply assumed I was gay, for no other reason than the fact that I was abused by a male perpetrator. I’ve known plenty of other men who’ve been shunned because of a similar assumption, or the much worse assumption that survivors, especially male survivors or gay men, are likely to turn around and also sexually abuse others.
None of this is accurate. Yes, the abuse can leave you feeling unsafe and uncomfortable in your own body and with your own sexuality. That is a side effect of being raped sometimes. That is not something anyone should be ashamed to talk about and no matter where they land on the spectrum of gender and sexual preference they deserve the respect and privacy to figure that out themselves. None of us asked your opinion, and none of us want to hear about your own illusions of how sexuality works after being sexually abused at a young age.
The more mature attitude is to recognize that healing from sexual abuse is a process that looks different for everyone, whether they are gay, straight, bisexual, non-binary and any other thing you want to consider. We all deserve a better response than to be accused of bringing it upon ourselves.
RT @SurvivorNetwork: This Week’s Links (weekly): Now Accepting Submissions For The November And December 2014 Blog Against Child Abuse… …
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