Link – Understanding PTSD and its Effects on Marriage

ByMikeM Reading Time: 1 minute

“PTSD not only affects one’s mental health but it can negatively affect one’s marriage as well. The symptoms of PTSD can create problems with trust, closeness, intimacy, communication, decision-making, and problem-solving, often giving rise to the destruction of relationships. The loss of interest in social activities, hobbies, or sex can lead to one’s partner feeling a lack of connection or being pushed away. A PTSD spouse can feel isolated, alienated and frustrated from the inability to work through the problems and help his or her partner. Partners may feel hurt or helpless because their spouse has not been able to get over the trauma. This may leave loved ones feeling angry or distant toward their partner.”

Lots of good insight in this article, especially if your spouse is dealing with PTSD. Check it out and know what to expect!

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2016/07/20/understanding-ptsd-and-its-effects-on-marriage/

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