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Link – How Childhood Abuse Becomes Self-Abuse

This is a fairly good description of what happens in an abusive childhood, and why some struggle to see themselves in a healthy and proper way.

At some point the child consciously or unconsciously may think, “Why don’t you love me?” “Why didn’t you protect me?” “Why did you hurt me?” “Why do you disregard my emotions, thoughts, and preferences?” But these questions easily morph into certain beliefs. “I am unlovable.” “I am worthless.” “I don’t matter.” “Nobody cares about me.” “I deserve it.” “I am bad and inherently defective.”

And eventually the child grows up….

Yes, the child does grow up, physically, but they have not developed the skills and the outlook that will help them survive adulthood. Those must be learned, and they can be learned.

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