I suspect some of you might not find this a very popular title, but the author goes on to explain, and I think there’s a lot of truth to this:
“The reason this article is entitled the way it is, is because many people assume that the trigger originated in the other person, that somehow it’s the other person’s fault that you got triggered. This is simply not true. The trigger response only belongs to you. It resides within you and has something to do with an emotional injury from your past.”
That’s not to say that you can just be an ass and continue to do something that triggers another person once you know that it does, but if you get triggered randomly, you can’t make it the world’s responsibility to not trigger you. That’s not fair, and it creates an unhealthy atmosphere for people around you. Don’t do that. Work with them and work within yourself.