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Sharing – Life-Changing Benefits of Self-Compassion
Child abuse can be all about shame and guilt. Because the entire world wants to believe that things are fair when we grow up, trying to square that belief with what happened to us as children naturally leads us to believe it’s our fault.
You can’t have self-compassion and also believe the abuse you suffered was your fault. We have to get past this idea that the world is fair and we get what we deserve. It’s simply not true. We have to be willing to have the same compassion for ourselves that we would have for another crime victim.
Everyone deserves to have some compassion for others and learn how to have compassion for themselves.
Links I’m Sharing (weekly)
Therapy in Color links Black Americans with therapists of color
It Is Time To Stop Stigmatizing Mental Health Among Healthcare Workers
Depression- When you stop loving the things you love
People Who’ve Called The National Suicide Prevention Hotline Explain What It’s Really Like
How To Deal With Disappointment ? In Pursuit of Happiness
How to Balance Staying Informed And Your Mental Health
How can you be a good friend to someone who is suicidal?
6 Ways to Self-Soothe When Starved for Touch
Sharing – What Happens When a Trauma Is Also a Betrayal
In addition to the original betrayal, many survivors are then betrayed a second time when they are not believed or the abuse is minimized. When the people who should be protecting them refuse to see what is happening or refuse to believe that person that they trust would do such a thing, the child is betrayed by a second person, or a third, fourth, etc. Add in the fact that while these extra betrayals are happening it is also unlikely that the child is getting any assistance that could help alleviate PTSD with early interventions.
In short, the more betrayal, the more suffering. We all have a responsibility to, at the very least, not add to the betrayal.
Sharing – Our mental health crashed in 2020. Recovery could take years
The article below gets into a lot more of the details of how different groups have been affected in a variety of ways, but the thing that I found myself nodding along to was this idea. This is not going to go away this Summer. People you know who have struggled, and have anxiety about things opening back up again, or are dealing with grief and depression, or the aftermath of all of the trauma that we’ve borne witness to over the last couple of years, are not going to just be “back to normal” and ready to hit happy hour like nothing happened.
We’re not there. We’re not going to be there for awhile. Give those people, and yourself if that describes you, some grace and patience.
Most of all, don’t stigmatize anyone for not being OK for a bit. We’ve all been dealing with different levels of trauma and anxiety, and you likely don’t even know half of how much people around you have been dealing with.
So, just be kind, OK?