The post below is about shame, and Carolyn does a good job in describing what it is like to live with shame. It also, very much, sounds like a lot of abuse survivors who I meet online and in real life: It’s this generalised, endemic sense that I’m not wanted in this world, that…
This story is an example of a whole bunch of things that are lacking. Was it the insurance company’s inability to provide more intense treatment options at fault? Was the lack of providers to provide that treatment without long wait times? Was it the 55% of mental health providers who’ve given up on dealing with…
It’s difficult to get anyone to talk about being sexually abused, and we also know that for male victims they also get the additional stigma attached to not being “man enough”. But then there’s this: The study, which examined child rape laws in 40 countries, found that just under half of jurisdictions lacked legal protections…
This is a really good description of what I have heard referred to as “sitting with their pain”. ““Don’t let your own feelings of anger or sadness get in the way of you being there for your partner,” Ms. Engel said. Getting angry, even at the person who did this to your friend or loved…
It may not be the most popular, positive advice you’ve ever heard, but it is reality. In any relationship, you can only give what you have, and if you are neglecting your own needs, eventually, that will lead to having nothing. In the case of trying to support someone dealing with depression or healing from…
As I’ve been writing recently, when childhood trauma goes untreated, or not prevented in the first place, it can often lead to problems with addiction in adulthood, as well as many other things. (Not in everyone, but it is a significant factor statistically) Now we see that not doing anything about that childhood trauma, is…
